Advice Session 2 | Modest is Hottest?
Happy Christmas break to you all! Today is part two of my advice giving series. This week there was only one topic that made sense to talk about… and that was modesty. I know that may seem weird… but I have been thinking a lot about it. WIth the whole Victoria’s Secret Fashion Show this week and the endless instagram pictures of Christian girls I know dressed provocatively, I just feel like it needs to be addressed. Many people may not see this, but maybe I can give some advice that may help at least one person.
Now I have advice for girls and for guys on this topic so I will break it down into two sections.
Let me just say, we have it hard sometimes. It’s like the girl world is always a competition, who has the best outfit, who has the most friends, who has the best boyfriend, etc. Even as a Christian woman it is hard to escape these competitions and pressures. It is almost like our society tells us we must look this way or act this way to get the attention of a boy, and in a lot of cases it has gotten a lot of success. So we wear that skin-tight dress because that is what seems to work for other girls right?
Well unfortunately that is probably the case. I mean why wouldn’t a barely dressed woman grab someone’s attention? Now I am not blaming men by any means… they were created that way! That is why I believe modesty is so so important! I mean no girl wants to be the one that causes a man to stumble. But we so often forget about that.
We attract by the way we dress and present ourselves. As women we longed to be loved, but do you really expect to receive love from a guy that is only looking how you are dressed? Sure if you dress modest you may not get the same looks, but you will be making sure you are attracting the right kind of guy. If you dress immodest you may get some looks and attention, but you are not going to be the girl a guy is going to bring home. Besides that, show some respect for yourself in the way you dress, you will receive the same respect.
I mean c’mon girls! It breaks my heart seeing these pictures and reading these tweets about woman not comparing to this woman or that woman. Why do you believe that? Because according to Scripture we are worth more than rubies! So we should act like it and have respect for ourselves.
And… let a true godly man get to know you for you! It may take some time waiting, but not all is lost with our society! Beyond attracting the right man, having respect for yourself, and by protecting men from stumbling into sin, it is what God call us to be. God calls us to be daughters of the King and to honor Him with everything we have including our bodies. My biggest piece of advice I can give you is to instead of comparing ourselves to the Victoria’s Secret Angels, to compare yourself to the Proverbs 31 woman.
The best thing you can do is to help encourage your sisters in Christ. It is not easy to be a girl in this time, as it is not easy to be a guy. So let’s help each other out! By giving your attention to those that choose to honor the Lord, only helps encourage them to continue in their walk to pursue their journey of being a woman of God.
It may be hard again to wait for those kind of women but they are out there! And when you find one, treat her with high respect and honor!
I hope this helps, and for some of you gives encouragement!
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