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April 20, 2015

The Power of Friendship

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Hello friends

The school year is coming to an end– so naturally I get all sentimental.  I am so thankful for all that my college experience at MNU has offered me.  Amazing professors, a high quality education, plenty of memories, etc.  I think by far the best thing the LORD and MNU has blessed me with this year are my roommates.

If you would have asked me back in high school how I would feel living with five girls I probably would have grimaced at the thought.  However, I have never been surprised by such a big and amazing blessing.

Let me tell you about them:

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Sarah & Anna (the twinsies) are seriously funny and seriously sweet.  Anna (middle) is sassy and sweet– the perfect combination!  The looks and sarcastic comments make me laugh way too hard! And then she’ll turn it right back around and be just too sweet! She always can get a laugh out of any of us!  I can picture her head tilt right about now… Sarah (right) is nicknamed “mama Sarah” because she is naturally so nurturing and gentle.  Every group needs a nurturer!  She is always checking in to see that all of us are okay.  These girls are such a blessing, very distinct from the rest of the world.  They always have a smile on their face– day-brighteners!

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Rachel is one of the kindest lady I have ever met.  Always quick to listen, and probably wouldn’t hurt a fly.  I have never seen her angry.  What a gift she is to an angry and impatient world!  It’s almost embarrassing to complain to her because she hardly ever complains!  She challenges you to be better simply by her actions.

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Mckenna is bold and adventurous.  She never fails to make just a little more exciting.  If any of us need something planned, she is the one to do it!  Kenna knows how to get things done!  She is there when we need to cry watching Grey’s Anatomy or eat a hot pocket, there to quickly come to any of our defense, she is always on our side.

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Randi is my partner in crime, a leader,a loyal friend, and a world-changer.  We first met at the beginning of freshman year– we’ve been through it all. Laughs until we cry, and cries until we laugh.  She instantly knows when I am upset, and knows when to give space and when to be there.  She doesn’t follow the crowd, but is in-tune and patient to hear what God has for her.  She is a blessing to us all.  This girl is going to do big things.

I have so many other blessings as friends–

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My childhood best friend (who came to MNU with me) Annie, makes me laugh hard.  Annie and I will never fail to be goofy together.  All that, yet we can still have long controversial theological and political conversations without any anger or insults added (rare I know).  She is truly a blessing, a kind and sweet soul.

So many others- my siblings, peoples from my church, and from high school, all my guy friends (shout out!).

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I guess I say all this just to say, your friends are an important part of who you are (especially if you live with them, hint the emphasis on my roommates).  It is important to surround yourself with people who are there to support and build you up, to challenge and to help you grow.  Also it is important to share your gratitude.  Nothing wrong with a little praise on the people who mean so much!

I challenge you to post about your friends that have become so meaningful! Share your gratitude with others and the Lord.

Maybe I just get sentimental knowing we only have one more year altogether.  Who knows.

Anyways

Thanks for stopping by

Haley

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April 14, 2015

A Challenge from a Counseling Psychology Theory

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Hello friends

So currently I am taking a Fundamentals of Counseling course for my major.  It is very interesting to learn about the different theories on how to help people.  People of all different types, with all different challenges, that need help getting through the day to day.

One type we have been talking about is called positive psychology.  Now this is definitely not my favorite theory out there, I think sometimes we have to go deeper into some of the issues, but the basics of thankfulness and appreciation can make major improvements in daily life.  This theory focuses on the “positives,” and being thankful.

My professor (Amy Cain wooh!) even related the concepts back to Scripture.  How often does the Lord ask us to give praise, and to serve, and to rest.  All component positive psychology uses in therapy.  Some of the homework positive psychologist give clients I wanted to share.  I decided to challenge myself to do this, and thought some of you out there could benefit as well!

1. Go through each day this week, and write down 5 good things that happened.  For instance, discuss accomplishments, something that was fun, a time you felt proud, a time you helped someone else, etc.

2. Tell someone this week that you are thankful for them.  Say it and write it.

3. Go for a walk (because it is so nice and beautiful out!) and be appreciative of your surroundings.  (You can read some of my old blog posts about finding joy in the ordinary, a scriptural idea used in a secular psychology theory)

The more objective psychology student in me wants to say that there is not enough research and this approach does not necessarily go down into the root of the problem.  There are definitely those cases where you may need to go deeper than just “feeling good” and being positive.  But I think these ideas are scriptural, to show praise and to be thankful.  So maybe try it out

Thanks for stopping by,

Haley

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April 7, 2015

It’s Springtime: Life Update

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Hello friends

I have barely made it through my first day back from Easter break.  The fact that I barely made it through today is kind of sad because I haven’t had a full week of school since spring break.  Anyways, let me just say my brain is fried and I am ready for summer-which is actually in just a few short weeks (MNU perks).

Just a few quick life updates:

1. I got a summer internship! This has been by far the most exciting thing in my life the last months or so. I will be working with an organization called MOCSA (Metropolitan Organization to Counter Sexual Assault) as a victim’s advocate. This is something I am incredibly passionate about and I am so blessed to be provided an opportunity to help and to learn. SO keep me in your prayers (as well as the organization and victims) this will be a difficult but inspiring experience I am sure.

2. I got to spend Easter break with my family.  These are my siblings: Kayla and Nate.  The first picture is our annual Easter picture.  Three years running Nate has gotten a hand to the face. The second is Nate exiting our selfie.  But seriously I love these people and I love to spend time with them.

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3.  The weather is beautiful which means campus looks beautiful! The picture above the title is a view looking up at one of the dogwood trees on campus.  This is the weather I have been waiting for!

4.  I am doing well in all of my classes.  Sometimes I forget I am in college mainly to get a degree (I am only being partially sarcastic).  It is just easy to get distracted when you live with your best friends, there are so many fun events, and new opportunities are given.  This semester has been incredibly difficult.  MNU is very blessed to have the professor they have and I say that because they are complete geniuses and I am well– probably not a genius.  So by the grace of God I am doing extremely well– and most importantly I am learning (I felt like my mom as I wrote that).  But truly I am so blessed to be learning.

Anyways.. That’s about it.  A few exciting things, hopefully more to come!

Thanks for stopping by

Haley

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March 30, 2015

Afternoon Thoughts

March 30, 2015 | By | 2 Comments

Hello friends

Although I am just now sitting down to write this (9:43 pm) I had some incredible thoughts that took place this afternoon… Well at least some were incredible.

There is something about a nice sunny afternoon that just gets me thinking.  The boys I nanny sleeping, the wind is light, and I just sit and take a deep breath.  After some extended deep-thinking/worrying-about-the-future morning, the sun and a place to just sit in the calm is perfect.  Every once in awhile an image of my Cognitive Neuropsychology textbook will pop into my head, reminding me of my very important exam.  I could very well be in denial, but there is something refreshing letting my mind relax.

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As I reflect I recall the verses in Psalms 37 “Take delight in the LORD, and he will give you the desires of your heart.  Commit your way to the LORD, trust in him and we do this: He will make your righteous reward like the dawn, your vindication like the noonday sun.”  What does it mean to take delight in Him?  To enjoy His presence, to believe and trust Him, to love Him, and to choose Him.  I think it is great to serve a God who longs to give me the desires of my heart.  That doesn’t mean he gives me whatever I want.  It means if I desire Him than I desire things that are godly and pleasing. And he longs to give those to me.  My passions and dreams are included.  What a promise to make us righteous, bright and shining like this afternoon sun.  After a morning of worry, a reassurance to trust and commit in the afternoon.  

I reflect, find the image of my Cognitive Neuropsychology book reappear and quickly exit my thoughts, and then shortly reminded of reality as cries from a cute baby boy exclaim his nap time must be over.  I rush to greet the cries so to not wake up the toddler asleep upstairs.  I look at this baby boy and smile to know that this boy is a part of God’s creation and is loved deeply by the Creator.  How cool to know that God has a plan and a purpose, even for a boy that just is beginning his life.

 

Then the reflecting time is over as toddler marches down the stairs.  Greeted by a “Hi Hay-ey” (he can not say his L’s) and a cute little smile before the demanding of Mickey Mouse.  Then my day is in full on rush of homework and worrying once again.

The point?  Take time to reflect.  Take time to breathe.  Take time to delight.  Take time to find the joy of Christ.

Thanks for stopping by

Haley

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March 23, 2015

The Hunting Ground

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Hello friends

So today I wanted to write something that is very close to my heart.  I recently started to work with an organization that does advocacy for victims of sexual assault and rape.  One of their main purposes is to also educate the community about assault and rape.  Some are quick to conclude that education is not needed, “everyone knows what rape is.”  However, there are some major misconceptions within our society.  A majority of our population when hearing the word “rape” automatically pictures a stranger in a dark alley.  This is what we call “real rape”  because our society assumes that this is what rape looks like.  However, research has shown that this only accounts for around 10% of all cases.  So that means a majority of rapes and assaults are committed by someone the victim knows.

Because in most cases the perpetrator is known, a lot of victim blaming and shaming (however mostly unintentional) takes place.  A lot of victims, we like to call them “survivors,” have explained the things they were told and had heard.  “Well if she wasn’t wearing that”  or “if she wouldn’t drink.”  Most of these comments aren’t meant with harm, however when survivors hear this it only brings shame.  They hear, “If I didn’t wear this outfit I wouldn’t have gotten raped.”  (Also women are not the only ones this is happening to, men too).

Our culture tells us that rape is only the “real rape” kind, and anything else isn’t.  This makes reporting to police very difficult for victims.  They struggle with wondering if anyone would believe them or if it even was actually rape.  And can we blame them? I couldn’t even tell you how many times I have heard someone say “well she’s after something, that’s why she’s saying she has been raped.”  That isn’t our job as a society to judge.  Our job is to seek justice and healing for victims.

This documentary, The Hunting Ground,  takes a look at the cover-ups of rape and assault on college campuses.  Not all college campuses are this way, I am very blessed to attend a school that does not stand for these actions.  Unfortunately there are campuses in this country who are more worried about keeping a reputation.

As members of society we need to educate ourselves and others.  As potential jury members, government officials, teachers, parents, and/or college deans, we need to know how we can prevent, how we can bring justice, and how we can bring healing.

The amount of hate and discouragement I have seen reading the comments on this documentary’s trailer only further proves to me the importance of education and sensitivity our society needs.  If you haven’t thought about rape and assault in this way before, I would suggest learning more about it.  Not to bring discouragement, but to better improve our society.

As a Christian, I feel that I have a responsibility to be informed citizen and loving.  To be someone that represents Christ.  Learning more about this issue gives me more reason to pray and to pursue righteousness.

So if you’d like, the organization I work with pushed hard in getting a special screening of The Hunting Ground, come watch the screening at AMC in Olathe on 119th St.  on Friday April 10th or also on the same day at Glenwood Arts in Overland Park.

You can buy tickets early:

http://www.fandango.com/thehuntingground_179871/movietimes

Also visit the website:

http://www.thehuntinggroundfilm.com

Thanks for stopping by

Haley

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March 15, 2015

“The God Who Sees Me”

March 15, 2015 | By | No Comments

Hello friends

I spoke in class chapel last week and a lot of people had asked that I share what I talked about.  So if you didn’t get to hear it, here you go!  This has something that has been on my heart the last several weeks and I am glad it spoke to so many:

I don’t like to ask for help. I will try to find places on my own first before looking it up on my GPS. I never asked my parents or teachers for help in school. I think there is a part of me that really likes being independent and self-sufficient.

I think as humans our relationship with how we view and interact with God is a conflicting battle between two things. Reverence and intimacy. It’s either we grew up seeing God as close by and a comforter but sometimes forget to see Him as the creator of the universe. We forget about the wonderment and amazement. If we aren’t careful we may even make Him and our relationship like one we can relate to (so something of this earth). Than there are some of us who were taught (whether as a child or recently) that God was far away. He was this God who is out doing big things and doesn’t have time for our little things.

I think the best relationships with God have and find a balance between the two. Because its true that God is a big and amazing God, but he also cares about the small things. For me I struggled with God caring about the small things. I felt like I had this intimate relationship with God, but I felt that He was too big to care about the small things in my life. When I have a little fever, or I am beyond exhausted, if I needed to receive a particular grade, or I was really hungry and didn’t have much to eat for dinner. Those are seemingly day-to-day basic and simple things. Than there were a little bigger things like when I was upset and hurt by something had told me, or other broken relationships, a loss of a loved one, or the stage and feeling of helplessness. I always thought God was too big to care or see me and what I was going through.

When I was heart broken I would think, “ok there are 27 million people enslaved around the world, millions of kids are starving to death, I live in such great wealth and blessing. I shouldn’t feel this way, or more that I feel this way but God doesn’t care as much because He has bigger things to do.” Although I don’t necessarily believe that that kind of thinking doesn’t have a place- I definitely thinks it gives perspective and humility- but I think we underestimate God and his character and abilities. We place a limit on who He is and His power.  When we think we will be fine and can handle it, that it is not as big of a deal as some other people’s issues, we rely on ourselves and underestimate God.

One of my favorite stories is the story of Hagar. So we are going to read it Genesis chapter 16

Now Sarai, Abram’s wife, had borne him no children. But she had an Egyptian slave named Hagar; 2 so she said to Abram, “The Lord has kept me from having children. Go, sleep with my slave; perhaps I can build a family through her.”

Abram agreed to what Sarai said. 3 So after Abram had been living in Canaan ten years, Sarai his wife took her Egyptian slave Hagar and gave her to her husband to be his wife. 4 He slept with Hagar, and she conceived.

When she knew she was pregnant, she began to despise her mistress. 5 Then Sarai said to Abram, “You are responsible for the wrong I am suffering. I put my slave in your arms, and now that she knows she is pregnant, she despises me. May the Lord judge between you and me.”

“Your slave is in your hands,” Abram said. “Do with her whatever you think best.” Then Sarai mistreated Hagar; so she fled from her.

The angel of the Lord found Hagar near a spring in the desert; it was the spring that is beside the road to Shur. 8 And he said, “Hagar, slave of Sarai, where have you come from, and where are you going?”

“I’m running away from my mistress Sarai,” she answered.

Then the angel of the Lord told her, “Go back to your mistress and submit to her.” 10 The angel added, “I will increase your descendants so much that they will be too numerous to count.”

11 The angel of the Lord also said to her:

“You are now pregnant
    and you will give birth to a son.
You shall name him Ishmael,[a]
    for the Lord has heard of your misery.

12 He will be a wild donkey of a man;
    his hand will be against everyone
    and everyone’s hand against him,
and he will live in hostility
    toward[b] all his brothers.”

13 She gave this name to the Lord who spoke to her:“You are the God who sees me,” for she said, “I have now seen[c] the One who sees me.”

Part of me reading this story makes me angry. How could Hagar be mistreated like that? But I think we get to see a glimpse of a sweet side of God. I don’t have all the answers of why there is evil and why bad things happen. But God saw Hagar. He went out and found her, increased her blessings. Hagar responds with something so profound and says, “You are the God who sees me.” He sees us. Hagar was a slave, a minor character in the story of Abram later known as Abraham. Abraham! I mean the father of the Israelites. The guy who has the most insane faith- He almost killed his only son because He so trusted God. This Abraham we teach in Bible stories. Hagar isn’t like an Abraham. But God sees her. He saw her tears and her pain.

The God of the Universe sees your pain, he sees your dreams, he sees your daily simple needs and HE CARES.  He knows us and our dreams.  And he CARES.  How much more could God do in our lives than us trying to do it ourselves?  We do ourselves disservice when we think we can figure it out on our home.  Why figure it out ourselves when the God who knows all things wants to be a part of it? What a God what a love.

If you aren’t convinced about a big God that cares and includes us in His story I wrote down some times in the Bible this was true:

  1. Jesus fed the thousands. (He definitely didn’t have to)
  2. God saved Israel over and over and over again. He saw them whining in the wilderness and provided for them every time.
  3. In Matthew 6 He talks about how he feeds the birds, “How much more does he care for us?”
  4. Genealogies- lists out all the people- doesn’t leave anyone out.
  5. Israel asks for a king, God gives them a king.
  6. Jesus reaches out to tax collectors
  7. God sends angels to tell shepherds to tell of Jesus’ birth (could have told a nobler group)

There are so many more examples. Moses and Joseph. I just think it is so cool we have such a big God that 1. Cares about the little things in our lives 2. So desires to include us in His story.  However we have to keep praying and asking for God.  We have to take the first steps and be proactive.

So I hope I talked to at least a couple of you today. I know it is a message for myself as well. A couple things I want you to take away is

  1. Start seeing God in a different way. Whether that be with more reverence or if you need to start seeing God as a God who cares. He is both, don’t forsake one for the other.
  2. A mentor of mine once told me “God moves when we pray because He wants us to know that it is Him at work, so His glory can be shown.” If you are hurt and broken, or tired and frustrated, or anxious and scared, or maybe everything is good… give it to Him in prayer.
  3. Maybe you don’t have a relationship with Him, you never wanted one or maybe you didn’t know much about God and never thought anything of it. I might ask if you feel so bold and up for a challenge to read the Word, talk with someone and see if it will change your life. I’ve lived life with God and I’ve lived life without Him (the good, the bad) and I will tell you there is nothing like Him. He is worth it all. A God that is so big yet cares so much, is worth living radically. Life with Him has been anything but boring. So see what learning about Him will do.

Thanks for stopping by

Haley

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March 2, 2015

The End It Movement

March 2, 2015 | By | No Comments

Hello friends

Today I wanted to share something I am so passionate about.  It stirs my soul, angers me from deep within my body.  27 million. 27 million in bondage today.  Human trafficking and slavery is evil. How could anyone take a woman, an innocent child, or anyone and use them for their own personal gain.  It completely shatters my heart.  That these people men, women, and children are in bondage. I want to see it end.  February 27th, this past Friday, was awareness day for slavery.  Today I encourage you to do a few things if you feel so moved.

1. Pray.  Please pray.  Write it down to help you remember.

2. Educate.  Learn more so we can find ways to make an end.

3. Spread awareness.  Educate others.

4. Donate.  If you can and feel so moved!

The End It Movement website has some really interesting things you can learn more about the statistics and specifics and also how you can donate!  I encourage you to be a part of this movement.

https://secure.enditmovement.com

Thanks for stopping by

Haley

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February 23, 2015

A Month of Pictures

February 23, 2015 | By | No Comments

Hello friends!

I sat down to my computer just now, drawing up a blank.  Like all the creativity just left my mind.  I don’t know what it is about the pressure of a computer and a deadline that pulls all the creative flow out of my mind.  Regardless, computers and deadlines are a part of an education.  Actually they are a part of life.  So I just gotta get my head in this blog game… woo.

I thought I would just share some fun happenings this last month in pictures:

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Bridge w: Randi

KU game- Kayla

(KU game this weekend against TCU)

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(vote Randi Jenner Pioneer Spirit)

me and dan

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(I get to nanny these boys again)

modeling re group

(Bridal event at Restoration Emporium, Picture Kia Bondurant, Clothes Encore boutique)

Pretty good month so far :)

Thanks for stopping by

Haley

 

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February 16, 2015

A Non-Snow Day Snow Day: Life Update

February 16, 2015 | By | No Comments

Hello friends!

If you are confused by the title of this post I understand.  Basically, along with a lot of the Midwest, Kansas City woke up to several inches of snow.  So snow day, but not really because classes weren’t cancelled… However, I have the whole afternoon off (yay) so I am going to pretend this latter half of the day was a snow day.  I don’t know about anyone else, but snowy days make me want to curl up and go into hibernation.  So those are my plans for the day… I am being super responsible  obviously.

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As I have posted a couple times already, I am trying to find joy in the ordinary things of life.  That includes non-snow day snow days and Mondays.  I think it gives me a better attitude.

Here are some other things for a life update:

My sister won Homecoming Queen at her high school!  (Also in the background you can see my lil freshman brother, suited up for varsity I might add, walking away in the right corner) My sibs are the best! It was good to be with them this last weekend.

kayla hc queen

 

Also I can’t even begin to describe how much I love these girls :) Missing a few of my roommates, but these girls here are beyond beautiful inside and out.  This was from the Sock Hop, our 1950s dance thing.  (Also I don’t know how to explain my face in this picture)

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Thanks for stopping by

Haley

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February 9, 2015

Finding Joy in the Ordinary

February 9, 2015 | By | One Comment

Simple, yet so difficult.

Why does our generation struggle with this concept?

We get bored,

Desensitized to the beauty of creation

to the beauty of our loved ones

to the beauty of words and learning.

Instead our souls are allowed to be filled with junk.

We choose to believe what we hear,

to believe what we see,

to believe what we are told we need,

and in this, we forget the joy of discovery.

New places and new ideas,

or old places and old ideas.

We forget what life is about,

What joy is to be found.

We become satisfied with little,

But there is so much more!

Life is about the early mornings,

the relationships: built and restored,

the learning,

the compassion and humility,

the appreciation of beauty and of sacrifice.

You could live a whole lifetime,

seeking happiness and never finding it.

Because life isn’t about circumstances,

It’s about your mindset in the circumstances.

The key is joy, and joy doesn’t just bring life,

It brings resurrection life.