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Joey Alligier


November 14, 2013

The Girls ask the Guys, it’s always a Surprise

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Your heart is beating out of your chest, your hands are clammy, the answer seems to be inevitably NO, but you hope for a miracle, questions and concerns involving the “what ifs” are running rampant, breathing is not possible because you forgot how, AHHHHH… welcome to TWIRP week.

The main topic of blogs this week is TWIRP- The Woman Is Required to Pay. It’s obvious that this event can be for those with significant others or someone who is simply eyeballin’. 
The ladies define this as a risky scenario of putting themselves on the front line of the battlefield known as dating. 

A couple of our other bloggers have made it a point to address this. Now from a man’s point of view. 
Here are 4 reasons this time of the year is a bipolar occasion for the fellas as well. 

1) A taste of their own medicine. The ladies get to experience what guys do the other 51 weeks of the year. The fear of rejection, laughter, and possible urination station is experienced on the reg! Us guys go through the “asking out” antics consistently. This is a breathe of fresh air and relaxation for guys to sit back and let the ladies flock….or not. 

2) That awkward moment when… This time could also be a morally convicting one. There are girls that TWIRP you, as we call it, that came out of the woodwork. Basically, you didn’t see it coming! The moral standard is to be a good guy and say yes. However, some guys, like Terrin Garber #shoutout get asked by 3 different girls #hotcommodity and you have to decide if you’re going to be “that guy” and turn the poor girl down or you would feel too bad because you know the taste of rejection all too well.  I would say always say yes, it’s free. Plus, the ratio of good to bad TWIRPs is in the positive’s favor. 

3) In my khaki pants, OH OH OH. The ability to live out the beautiful structure of Relient K’s ever-famous Sadie Hawkins Dance. It’s as simple as that. I mean come on, who doesn’t want to be stopped by a girllll soooo stunning.

4) Chivalry is…? hmmm The ladies pay in this scenario. For some of us dudes, it’s not cool to let the lady pay! We want to be the care taker and open the door and pull out the chair and pay. It’s weird being the one who is receiving the chivalry. While it’s weird, it won’t always be around. My advice: EMBRACE IT MY BROS! 

TWIRP, overall, has got to be a fellas favorite time of year. Beautiful ladies, free stuff, and women experiencing what us men do regularly. 

FELLAS: Wear the clean underwear, fix your hair, for goodness sake shower at least twice this week, BE TWIRP-ABLE
LADIES: Rejection is known by the gentlemen, they feel the pain. Get out there and be stunning to stop the dude in his tracks. 

Keep on and keep God, 

Joey Alligier

Allegra Vieux


November 13, 2013

Mission Impossible

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Hello Blog World.

This video is part of the worship service at my church on Sunday. Funny story about that.

So I guess you could say I’m the type of person that likes new things. I like trying/starting new things, and it doesn’t take much for me to get really EXCITED. I enjoy looking for new music, activities, playing new games, going new places, etc. And on the contrary, I get really bored with the same things over and over. I get bored easily and withdraw most often. I lose interest and move on to something… well.. new.

Last year in chapel, a guy came and spoke about Moses and his staff. He talked about how Moses, somewhere along the lines, acquired his staff, and no matter what situation Moses was in, God used the staff to help him lead the Israelites. He related the staff to our degrees. The main idea was that we could all be church planters regardless of our degrees, and we could all go into ministry and yada yada.

Then he said the words “We’ll have free pizza in the Tipping Point tonight and talk more about…” and I pretty much didn’t listen after that because I was so there. (in addition to new things, I really like free things.)

So I go to this meeting to hear about what the church planting process looks like from the ground up, because it has always interested me. Side note-I helped with a church plant on the plaza not too long ago, and it was really cool to see it come together. We met in the movie theater to attract people who were looking for a more casual worship experience and hopefully bring in some who weren’t comfortable walking into a church building. So I’m at this meeting enjoying new people and eating pizza that I didn’t pay for, and then like 5 guys who were all planting churches in the area talked about their vision for their individual plants, and proceeded to try and recruit us MNU students to help them out.

Okay so I’ll admit that I wasn’t super interested. I had just gotten settled into a church in Olathe and was making connections and really felt like I was in the right place. Our worship was awesome, our preaching was out of this world, and people were going down to the altar in masses of like 17 every week. I was cool with it. Also, it was a big congregation so I didn’t really have to be involved, although I was going to Bible study and giving and all that jazz. The point of this is, as soon as we were dismissed I tried to bolt out of that place because I didn’t want to lose my life to promoting a new church especially knowing how much school work I had to do.

Then, to my dismay, this dude Jonathan stopped me and started asking me about my life.

If you don’t know me, I’m a talker. and because I like meeting new people and new things, I became a little intrigued.  He said, “My hope is that we’ll be meeting in the movie theater in Overland Park at 135th and Antioch.” 2 things about this jumped out: 1. My Aunt and Uncle live 10 blocks north of that theater and 2. I helped plant a church once in a movie theater. So he gave me his business card, told me to email him because he wanted to talk about marketing ideas with me. So I gave him a fake smile and nod and told him I’d be in touch. he he he

Yeah okay so he somehow remembered my name and found me because I got an email from a professor asking if it was okay for him to give my email to this guy. Dang. I was like, “okay yeah I guess…”

So then after approximately 16 emails (I made it nearly impossible for him to get a hold of me,) I finally responded and he took me to Starbucks. We talked about social media and analytical junk that I won’t bore you with, then he asked me to meet every week. I was like, uhhh peace out. (Actually I probably went one or two more times for the free Starbucks and then told him I was busy.)

Since we’re being honest, I was getting a little interested, but not enough to exert much effort. Well this Jonathan dude exerted a lot of effort and sent me an email for kick-off Sunday with the order of service and a list of who was working where.






I was like, dang. This poor guy doesn’t get it. I guess I’ll show up this week, help with Audio/Visual, and then let him down gently. Because at least this way, I can say I tried and it just wasn’t for me.

So 9 months later I still go to this church and it’s not because I don’t have the heart to tell this guy that I’m not interested. I guess you could say I fell in love? It ended up that this church was like, designed for me. I still help with A/V and want to be even more involved. Turns out, this Jonathan guy can bring the word like nobody’s business. Then there’s Hurley and Tim: They are real musicians who have real musician friends who they bring with them to lead worship every week. Translation: It’s always different! This week, Hurls brought her rapper friend Rye-On and he free-styled  during the set. It was incredible.

So in the spirit of new and free, I have to give a shameless plug for Tim Cone, who also leads us in worship at Mission Church.

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If you go to you get his new album for free. I don’t promote things that suck, so you should probably just go do it. It’s amazing and I’ve had it on repeat all day. I’ll make it even easier for you: Follow this link! NEW FREE MUSIC FROM TIM CONE

aaaaaanndd if you’re ever in the area, I would definitely recommend Mission Church KC. Never a dull moment!

Over and Outtt!


Haley Raydo


November 9, 2013

The Unwritten Rules In Getting a Date! Advice for Boys

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Hello friends!

So by the title I am sure you can tell that this is a bit different from what I normally write about.  I was inspired by a dinner conversation I had with some of the girls.  We exchanged stories, boy stories to be exact, about different experiences we had.  Most of these stories were on the funny and a bit on the creepy side.  After discussing, we talked about how we wished guys would know how to handle situations better.  If you’re interested in a girl there are certain unwritten rules.  We talked and agreed on some, and decided this would be a great blog!

Now these bits of advice are generally speaking, not about anyone in particular.  We just thought it would be nice to help some guys out! Also keep in mind that all girls are different, very different, but for the most part these are rules you can follow for the average girl.


So here they are, the to do’s and what not to do’s in getting a date with a girl!

1. “God Told Me To Date You”

What Not To Do: Don’t pull the “God told me to date you” card.  For so many reasons this is a problem. First, it puts a lot of unnecessary pressure on a girl and on a relationship.  If she has not heard from God that this is the case, she is not going to respond well to the statement.

What To Do: If you really feel like God is wanting you to date her, than great! But keep it to yourself.  If this is truly what God wants, He will keep her around.  Pray about it!  No need to rush!

2. Read the Signs When You Ask For Her Number

What Not To Do: You don’t want to be the guy that can’t read the signs.  As subtle as they may seem, trying to read them is always a good idea.  When you ask for a girls number and she seems unenthusiastic, gives a nervous laugh or smile, or tries to avoid the subject, than she probably doesn’t want to give it to you. So something you wouldn’t want to do is to text her immediately and constantly.  If you don’t get the hints up front, a girl is eventually going to have to be more blunt which will hurt worse.

What To Do: Wait awhile before asking for her number.  Some girls may like it if you ask for it right away, but a lot of girls are skeptical.  So don’t get upset if you get the sign!  The girl may have just had a guy hanging around them that broke a bunch of these unwritten rules, so they aren’t wanting to give out their number to anyone… So instead, get to know her first!  You don’t have to be buddy-buddy and get friend-zoned, but just a friendly conversation in class or a wave while walking passing her by makes a girl feel more comfortable!

3. There Is a Rule To Texting 

What Not To Do: Yes there is a rule, and one rule the girls and I agreed on was the 2-4 text rule.  If you send 2-4 texts without a response back (this goes for girls too) than there probably isn’t an interest there.  Now there are exceptions to the rule, but for the most part this is the case.  You don’t want to be the guy that sends 10+ texts at a time.  Take the signs, so a girl doesn’t have to be blunt.  If you are really unsure if your text are sending through, text a friend or your mom. :)

What To Do: If you have reached the limit, take a break for awhile.  I know it might be hurtful, but don’t put yourself through the torture! Now girls do love to be pursued, but the point is don’t go overboard if she’s not interested. You will find someone that is, and she will be the one you want to pursue and spend your time with!

4. Mentioning Marriage the First Time You Meet Someone

What Not To Do: Don’t talk about how bad you want a wife the first time you meet a girl.  She is probably in the same boat as you, but that adds a lot of pressure to the conversation.

What To Do: Have you noticed a theme? Timing is important! The only way to know perfect timing is through prayer.  Talking about marriage is something to wait to talk about.

I hope this is helpful!  The major theme when it is all said and done is timing.  Pray and ask the Lord to guide you through this time.  If you are in high school or college you have plenty of time, so don’t rush it!  Girls if you want some advice in a future blog let me know!

Thanks for stopping by!


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Allegra Vieux


November 4, 2013

Nazarene Musical 3

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…This is my life.

Meet my friends Konner, Jonathan, Will, Charles, and Josh.

Watch More Here!

There are days when I feel like my whole life is a musical… and that’s probably because it is.

Over and Out!


Haley Raydo


November 2, 2013

Follow Me Around: Dorm Room, Basketball Game, Weird Squirrels

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Hello friends!

So if you want to know what a (semi) normal day looks like for a freshman at MNU…. Here you go! Meet my friends, walk around campus with me, and get to know what campus life is like! I had a lot of fun filming my day.  The only thing I missed was the Masquerade that night for Halloween.

If you make it to the end… Major props to you!

Thanks for stopping by!


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Joey Alligier


October 30, 2013

Passion in Pictures

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Pictures capture a moment in time. A spot in history that can never be truly replicated. Snapping the obnoxious laughter from a more-corny-than-actually-humorous joke or catching the relief of a runner crossing the finish line is a fulfilling feeling. But it’s not fulfilling simply because the picture isn’t blurry. It’s fulfilling because there’s a story behind the picture. This story can impact the way you live because it molds the way you view life, people, and individual moments. Maybe it’s obvious and maybe it’s up to interpretation. For example, the corny joke is from a blooming friendship that is an answered prayer and the relieved runner has been training for months after forgetting what running meant.

There are numerous different things in life that can present opportunity for you to pour yourself into. For me, photography is one.

Here’s some of my “work”
(LOL, work? I was just being creepy, well like, kind of, never mind…)

Such a Time Cam Mario Madsion Deal Kylee Dylan Dr. Spittal Pumpkin RunLook at life through a different pair of glasses; who knows, maybe it will be a perfect fit. Don’t be afraid to try new things. They can become the things that mean the most to you. It doesn’t matter how good you are at it! The passion is yours, do with it what you will and make it matter.

Keep on and keep God,

Allegra Vieux


October 30, 2013

Mourning the Death of a Relationship: A word for the hurting, the healing, and the hating

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crying-girlBreaking up is hard to do.

I can’t take credit for that wisdom, but in my experience, it is true.

When a relationship ends, it’s almost as if a whole person dies. When 2 people come together and form a dating relationship, the dynamic of the couple is like a 3rd friend. When that time is over, it’s like the third friend has left on bad terms, or even died but no one wants to acknowledge it. It affects everyone around, even those who weren’t involved. The two newly single people can catch a glimpse of each other from across campus and everyone within the local zip code feels the tension. I think it has something to do with quantum physics, but I’m no science major so don’t quote me on that.

There are 3 major people groups involved in a break up, as listed below:

1. The Hurting: The one who got broken up with- maybe didn’t see it coming.

2. The Healing: The one who broke off the relationship.

3. The Hating: The friends of the couple, or highly opinionated acquaintances.

Keep in mind that in whatever I’m about to say, I’m on your side. I’m writing as the completely unbiased third party, and won’t give you half-truths. There are absolutely situations that one person is completely wrong, but this is from the stand point that things just didn’t work out. If you are in any of these positions, I feel for you. It’s aca-awkward. So let’s dive in and relieve the tension.

To The Hurting: Be glad you’re not in a relationship with someone that doesn’t value you for all that you’re worth. Last week I kind of put Bruno Mars on blast, but the dude also has good things to say. For example, I wake up to “Treasure” every morning. The whole song is a booster, but there is a line that is fitting for this subject.

You’re wonderful, flawless, ooh, you’re a sexy lady”

Lady or gentleman, you are wonderful. You are flawless. You are sexy! These are all Biblical. Don’t mistake a relationship fizzling as a reflection of your identity. The addition of a significant other does not change who you are. The absence of a significant other does not change who you are. I have no reason to lie. You are a dream come true. A masterpiece- Don’t get in your head and make everything a reflection of you. Start listening to the truth and tuning out the lies. To quote B. o. B., “You the whole package, plus you pay your taxes.” I know for a fact the first statement is true, and if the second is true, then you’re set for life.

To The Healing: Props to you for having the courage to end something that isn’t going any further. It’s never easy to let someone down, but the shorter the delay, the better. You may be concerned that your sig (or in this case ex-sig) is drowning themselves in tears or cookie dough ice cream, but don’t take that on. Don’t give yourself the credit of making or breaking someone’s life. Sure, this is painful for everyone involved, but you’re not the center of the universe, therefore, you cannot send anyone into an apocalypse. They will be fine and so will you. Be prepared though- this takes time. Don’t expect to go back to being friends within moments of ending it. That’s not good for you or them. Let them lay low for a while, and don’t force a conversation or moment to happen.

To The Hating: This blog is mostly for you. If you are a friend of a sig, then there’s no such thing as a third party. You probably have opinions. You probably have the best of intentions in supporting your friend. Sometimes, the lines of supportive and destructive get blurred. Things that start so positive end really horribly, like the riot in the movie, Hot Rod.

hotrod5If you’re not familiar with the movie, the main character, Rod, played by Andy Samburg, is trying to raise funds for his dying stepfather’s heart transplant. While on his way to the fundraising event, the whole community comes alongside him and walks together with him. The song “You’re the Voice” by John Farnham plays over the dialogue and it is truly an inspiring moment in a weird, satirical movie. (Side note- this is my FAVORITE movie ever! Watch it if you haven’t because your life will be CHANGED!) Then the inevitable happens: a riot breaks out and the whole moment is killed in a matter of seconds.

I’m going to go as far to say that this actually happens more often on campus than we acknowledge. For example, a couple splits and the girl and guy go back to their respective same gender friends. The said friends both start consoling The Hurting and The Healing, and come alongside them in support. Somewhere along the lines, the opposing party (usually, The Healing,) becomes the enemy and it is a battle to get as many people in your army as possible. Tearing others down won’t make anyone any higher. This brings me to my first point:

Blowing out someone else’s candle will not make yours shine brighter.

One time, it was one of my professor’s 50th birthdays. My friend Emily and I got a small cake for him with 50 trick candles on top. We waited for him to go to class and proceeded to light all of said candles with the intention of disrupting his class and having a good laugh. The plan backfired. We definitely disrupted his class, because the flames came together and created one HUGE flame measuring up to 2 feet in height and nearly causing the entire business building to burn down. We busted into class, sang happy birthday, and then he made a wish, and tried to blow them out. This was the moment when I decided I hated trick candles, because the flames came back with a vengeance. The Lord was on our side, as it was a rainy day, and we RAN through the first floor of Metz, burst outside, and launched the now wet candles into the bushes. The cake was covered in rainbow wax and riddled in holes.. DEFINITELY inedible.

What if we, took our candles, and put them together to burn bright, instead of using them like torches to lead a riot? Maybe this is corny, but what if we loved our neighbors by supporting the good instead of condemning the bad? When talking to our Hurting and Healing friends, let’s make a point of reaffirming their qualities instead of bashing the bad. Forget boyfriend bonfires and remember the candle fiasco: it will change your paradigm.

What do you do if your Hurting friend is bashing their Healing ex-sig? It’s easy to jump on the wagon and want to join in with what they are saying. This brings me to my next point:

Not everything is black and white.

Keep in mind that the side of the story you are hearing when your friend is upset is tainted and not the most accurate. Don’t take those statements to the bank. Reaffirm your friend, and keep their candle shining, maybe even relight the flame. Use your powers for good and not for evil.

Do we all remember when Brad Pitt and Jennifer Aniston were married? They were my favorite Celebrity couple second only to Nick Lachey and Jessica Simpson. I remember the day like it was yesterday: I was watching Newly Weds on MTV and the screen went black for a Public Service Announcement: that Brad and Jen called it quits. People went nuts! If people were in support of Jen, then they wore pink ribbons, but if they were for Brad, they wore blue ribbons. It originally had to do with Aniston backing Breast Cancer Awareness, known world wide for the pink ribbon, and Angelina Jolie with the blue ribbons for Child Abuse Awareness, and because Brad switched partners he switched causes or something… the point is that choosing sides and viewing things as black and white gets you no where except for down a destructive road leading to drama, and nobody wants that!

Real talk though- One of the things I think Christians miss the most is unconditional love. It’s a tough concept to grasp. This brings me to my final point:

It is possible to support a person without supporting their decisions.

We’ve all heard the stories about the engaged couple we don’t agree with and the battle among the friends on deciding if they are going to go to their wedding or not because they don’t support the marriage. Perhaps you’ve had to decide whether you’re going to a wedding or not, or maybe you’ve just had to decide if you’re going to buy Miley’s new song because it’s catchy but you don’t want to support her craziness. Similar principle.

I don’t preach often. But this is a subject that gets me hyped.

I don’t think Jesus died to give us the power to judge and condemn and make known our opinions. He died to give us life abundant. To not support someone because of their decisions is the farthest thing from the Jesus way of life. Jesus went to the cheating tax collector’s home and shared a meal with him. He hung out with the prostitutes and touched the sick and unclean. And what’s cool is, despite my decisions, regardless of my actions, and irrespective of my choices, He’s there for me and continues to support me. If He didn’t, that would be conditional love, and our gospel would look a whole lot different.

Let’s now apply this to a break up among our friends: You may not agree with The Healing’s decision to end things. That doesn’t give you the right to step in and assume the role of God by judging them based on their actions. This does not give you divine permission to hate them, start a riot and put people against them. That is called slander, and the Word of God is clear about this. You may not have agreed with The Hurting’s decision to date The Healing in the first place. That doesn’t give you the right to bash anyone. People of the Christian world: Can we please eliminate the expectation of meeting a certain living standard to start loving and accepting others? If this were the law we lived by, we would have no need for the cross, and I, personally, would be screwed.

I want to leave you on a lighter note- and I think this video below sums up everything nicely. Watch how Sophia Grace builds up Miley with the truth and just radiates with love for her. Let’s love both The Hurting and The Healing the way these little ladies love everyone!

Sophia Grace and Rosie on Ellen

If you made it this far, then well done!

Over and Out!



Haley Raydo


October 26, 2013

Looking Back In Time… 50 Years From Now

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Hello friends!

Earlier today I was at lunch with my grandma, mom, and sister.  We just shared and talked about things here and there, when my grandma mentioned her 50th college reunion she had attended last night… 50th? My grandma was in my stage of life over 50 years ago! She even said, “There were so many old people!”  My grandma, definitely young at heart, is someone I have looked up to my whole life.  She is bold and carries the joy of the Lord wherever she goes.

My grandma playing piano with me back in the day.  My baby sister is sitting on her lap.

My grandma playing piano with me back in the day. My baby sister is sitting on her lap.

After going home, I wondered what my life would be like after 50 years.  Would I accomplish my goals and dreams? How do I make sure I stay on the straight and narrow?

I decided to call her and ask her some of the questions I had been asking myself.  I heard her sweet “hello” on the other end of the line, and immediately smiled.  She is just that type of person that can brighten your day.  I explained to her my request and she began talking about her reunion.  “People said nice things. ‘I accomplished this, and I did this, and achieved these dreams.’  They were good, but it was all about me me me and I didn’t hear anything that glorified God.”  I found that interesting as she explained more about the different classmates she had talked to.   “There is two ways to do things, Haley, you can plan out your life and do the things you want by your own strength, or you can live a life that follows God plans and that glorifies Him.”

This is a hard thing for me.  I have a problem with trusting God.  Most of us have heard the Proverbs 3 verses that says “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight.”  It is one thing to hear these words, it’s another to follow them to the ultimate extremes.

I decided to pick a word of the year this last January.  I had had a hard couple of months leading up to this, emotional and physical ups and downs that just kept piling up. I felt as if I was in free-fall, unsure of where I would end up.  But in January when I decided to pick a word, I heard the Lord strongly say TRUST, trust, trust.  It has been a rough road since January, but I felt God keep saying trust.  When I needed emotional and physical healing and had not received it as immediate as I had hoped–I heard the word trust.  When I was stressing about picking a college to attend–I heard the word trust.  When I was tired from working long days all week long–I heard the word trust.  It has followed me everywhere, and listening to my grandma has brought it back up again.

It may be easier at this point to plan out your own life, follow your own dreams, and use your own strength to finish it out.  It is a lot harder to trust.  But my grandma says she has had the best life.  “Nothing is more exciting than living for the Lord.”  I think the difference in where you’ll end up at your 50th college reunion is whether you trusted the Lord with your life or not.

As a personal challenge for myself and to you if so choose, is to not be those people at your 50th reunion that only talk about your own accomplishments.  Be the person that glorifies God, and lives the exciting life of trusting in His plan.  You can live it out now, starting by asking God to reveal His plans for your life.

“Looking back now, I see God’s hand in my life in every direction I turned.”  I asked her how one would get to a place 50 years from now and see the imprints of God.  She told me that it all starts with praying and asking God to reveal talents and gifts, and to choose daily to give the glory of God.  This may take a lot of trust, but it is worth it in the end.

Anyways I hope that is encouraging! Sometimes I think it is good to look at life from the future looking back, to evaluate where we are in the present.  Here are some verses to look at if you want to be encouraged through the Word about this:  Jeremiah 29:11, Romans 8:28, Psalm 46:10, Psalm 37:4-6, Hebrews 13:8, Matthew 6:25, Psalm 28:7, John 14:6, Psalm 91:1-16

Thanks for stopping by!


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Joey Alligier


October 23, 2013

How bout’ them Chiefs?

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I am a recently-turned 20 year old who has in the past few years taken a genuine interest in sports on a deeper level. As I came into my own in this sense I already had some teams that interested me. One of them was the good ol’ Kansas City Chiefs. This interest was definitely an inherited passion. My recollection is of my brother Brandon’s influence impacting me. In the time I have earnestly followed the team it has been a less than enjoyable experience. I would say that we have had quite a bit of talent, especially last year, just missing a few integral parts. With all of the struggle aside, the anticipation of this season continuously built  in the off-season; healthy players, Alex Smith, and a quality draft pick topped the list of excitement factors.

Obviously I am a happy camper at this point.
One of the best defenses
More points thus far than in the past year and a half
Best record in the league
And playing the Cleveland Browns on Sunday. 

If you don’t think the Chiefs are valid; fair enough. The schedule hasn’t necessarily been the American Gladiator-gauntlet of NFL teams and it’s still pretty early in the large scheme of things. However, here are a few reasons you should at least golf-applaud the Chiefs thus far. 

1) Andy Reid.
The Eagles were predicted to run the field last year and that hype faded quick. Kansas City had some hype before the season started, and let’s be honest, with the rep of KC a giant downfall wouldn’t have been a surprise. He is making it work and making it look good. Plus,
THAT STACHE THOUGH. And speaking of coaches, quite a few of the MNU coaches have been involved in this organization. OBVIOUSLY, they breed quality fellas.

2) There’s no “I” in team
Typically the KC defense would show signs of life and then the offense would wrap their hands around that neck and suffocate that same life. We were worn on the field and even off the field with injuries. However, now there is Alex Smith and two machines named Tamba Hali and Justin Houston, and we could even include Dontari Poe. The Chiefs are a well-rounded team that  is fully of developed players. Don’t a couple that run the show, but a team effort.

If you have ever been to a KC game, you’ll understand.
The atmosphere, even in the midst of a horrid season, is unmatched. The fans are loyal, even if they may not fill the stadium…. With the Chiefs being the 6th smallest market in the NFL it can be hard to be competitive. However, in a place like Arrowhead; which has become the loudest open stadium by having a decibel level of 137.7 in the 6th oldest stadium, the fans make a difference and the Chiefs have been relatively competitive very frequently. Basically, they are a classic organization with fans that have heart.

Those are just 3 reasons that the Chiefs should catch your eye. I’m not saying become a bandwagoner, but it sounds pretty sweet at this point right?

and I guess you can come if you wanna talk smack too 😉

I have always been and always will be a Chiefs fan, but that’s a lot better and simply more fun when they win! However, my loyalty will stay.

Isn't it just beautiful?

Isn’t it just beautiful?

..Hopefully this doesn’t jinx them this weekend….

Keep on and keep God,

Allegra Vieux


October 22, 2013

Relationship Advice From an Unlikely Source

October 22, 2013 | By | 24 Comments


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My beautiful engaged friend, Kyndra and her fiance Justin.

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My wonderful engaged friends Sam and Abi. Poster children!

My dear friends of MNU Blogs,

It seems like among high school and college aged students, relationships are the hot topic. I don’t know about you readers out there, but at least 75% of my conversations are about finding “the one” or dating or “talking” or something of the matter. This week alone I’ve had about 7 conversations about dating and relationships and it’s only Tuesday.

I find myself pondering the question: Why are these people coming to me? I’m not qualified to answer their questions and here are some of the reasons why I’m probably the worst person to come to:

  1. I’m happily single and feel that college should be about spending as much time with as many people as possible before we leave. (Side note: I am a founding co-president of MNU’s unofficial evangelical organization TSFL: Team Single For Life.)
  2. I don’t usually know anything about the relationship at hand. Most of the time, I don’t even know the significant other (from here on referred to as “sig,”) so I am completely one sided.
  3. I am blunt. I tell things like it is.  I’m not good at telling people what they want to hear when it’s not true.

On the other hand, maybe all of these things actually qualify me to give advice more. I don’t waste time in dating relationships if I know they’re not going anywhere. I am 100% PRO whoever I am talking to (we all need one of those friends.) And, I don’t waste my time sugar-coating the facts. Just today I was talking to a good friend of mine and she said, “Hey, you should write a blog. You have such good advice.” Well, it’s Tuesday, so here we go.

May I present: Relationship Advice From an Unlikely Source: The completely blunt unbiased third party advice you’re looking for in your relationship.

I remember when I was 16 and visiting some friends from my hometown. I asked my BFFL Kimberly about another one of our friends. “Is she going out with that guy??” and the words she said back to me are forever burned into the front of my mind. “Well, they’re talking.” I asked her to explain what this meant, and she said something ambiguously alluding to not officially dating but talking to each other exclusively and occasionally going out on dates. This brings me to point #1.

1. Talking is Dating, so call it what it is.

People act like if they say they are dating someone, then they are forever tied to them and have to marry them. NEWSFLASH: that would be called an engagement.

Hey, speaking of dating, whatever happened to guys asking girls out on dates? You know, the good ole fashioned dinner and skating at the local roller-rink? With the advances in technology, it seems like nowadays people are texting every minute of the day until one day a photo album on Facebook shows up called “I SAID YES!!!!!” This brings me to point #2.

2. If you aren’t going off campus together, you’re going nowhere together.

Let me speak to the ladies for a moment: You are worth a guy taking the time to ask you out on formal dates. You are worth a guy not being worried about what people will think if his partners in crime see him with you. He should be proud to be with you! Enough of this ridiculous virtual relationship stuff. Demand the best because you ARE the best. And you don’t have to take my word for it: the Bible spells it out. Check it out sometime. And if Jesus thinks you’re to die for, then whoever you’re with should too!

And to the men: it’s not your fault that you’re being given the easy option of emojis and snapchats instead of face to face interaction. Heck, if I were in your shoes, I’d choose free over wining (grape juicing?) and dining any day. I’m so sorry that we have lowered our standards and basically said “you’re never going to be able to treat me as a mature adult, so I’ll make it easy for you.” We’ve trained you that virtual relationships are okay, and I would like to personally apologize on behalf of Christian women in America that we have killed the chase, made it easy, and are readily waiting for no effort on your end at all. Do us a favor, and don’t settle for someone who says you’re incapable of wooing us over. It’ll make you better and make us shape up to be the women Christ calls us to be.

I’ve talked to some friends recently that have been torn because they are in either a pseudo-relationship or a full blown committed relationship, but the feelings aren’t really there. They are afraid to leave because they fear “being forever alone” and that if they don’t stay in the relationship, then they won’t ever find anyone better and they’ll die alone. I’ve also talked to singles who are not in a relationship and are depressed that they aren’t planning a wedding with their graduation party. This leads me to my next point:

3. Quit being ridiculous and start being honest.

It is absolutely ridiculous that people fear the gift of celibacy. Let me reassure you that if you crave a relationship, you probably don’t have it! PS- You are 20 years old. Marriage is a commitment FOR LIFE. The national average for marriage is in the 27-29 year mark. Average life expectancy for Americans is 80 years. You have 60 years to find someone… And can we even call it finding someone? Doesn’t God have this world in His hands? Can we start trusting that He has our best interest in mind and will give us the people in our lives that we need? I’m no ministry major, but I’ve been to a lot of chapel and church services and I think that’s Biblical. And if you’re not feeling it, you’re not feeling it. That’s the most admirable reason to break off a relationship IMO (in my opinion.) If your sig isn’t what you’re looking for, or if the feelings aren’t there, then let them go because chances are you’re not the one for them either. Literally, no one can reprimand you for being honest about your feelings. They can reprimand you for ignoring your feelings and then having them all come up later like a volcanic eruption. That’s when this question gets thrown out: “Why didn’t you tell me you felt this way? What else have you been withholding?” Nip that sucker in the bud and move on.  And in the spirit of honesty, nobody likes confrontation. Get it over with so you can stop being consumed with it.

Researchers estimate that 40-50% of first time marriages end in divorce, and 60% of second marriages end in divorce or permanent separation. As you can probably guess, it’s time for point #4.

4. Don’t be a statistic.

In the words of Bruno Mars, “It’s a beautiful night, we’re looking for something dumb to do. Hey baby, I think I wanna marry you.” Don’t sit on the other side of the computer and act like you’ve never danced to that song. I don’t blame you. It’s so catchy! But if marriage becomes an item on your list to check off, it’s time to reevaluate. Mars goes on to say “If we wake up and we wanna break up, that’s coooooool…” Friends of the United States of America: If your sig says or alludes this to you, it’s time to break up with them right then and there. More importantly, if you have this thought in the back of your mind, you’re probably not ready to make the commitment of holy matrimony. Maybe instead of listing getting married and starting a family a part of your 5 year plan, you should set other goals and let The good Lord surprise you with the desires of your heart. It will happen when you are least expecting it, so stop planning for it. You ain’t no Kardashian. Start loving where you’re at. Take advantage of the short amount of time you have as a single young adult and travel! Do things that take you out of your comfort zone and grow as an individual!

Once upon a time I had a friend going through something. For the sake of the story, we’ll call her Nancy. Nancy was like, IN LOVE with this dude, we’ll call him Rob. Rob was that guy in high school that everyone loved because he was awesome and everyone secretly hated because they wanted to be him. Nancy was your average girl next door, but obviously with a great sense of humor because she was friends with me. One day, Rob started taking interest in Nancy. He asked her to go out on dates, and then after about three weeks they made it FBO (Facebook Official.) Sounds like a classic romantic comedy? Well that’s because it was. Except Nancy became this alternate quiet opinionless person around Rob because she was afraid that her bold personality would scare him off. She didn’t feel comfortable around him. This leads me to my final point:

5. If you’re not having fun, then the relationship is done.

Yes, relationships are work. But the payoff should be worth it! If you can’t be yourself, you’ll drive yourself crazy. Don’t be a people pleaser. Sure, be agreeable and kind. And yes, I get the Biblical principle about women submitting to their men and husbands loving their wives, but I also understand that Jesus calls us to be BOLD and take on the courage of a lion! Enjoy being yourself, because baby, you were born this way. Annnd enjoy your sig being themselves too! They should LOVE your personality, and if they don’t, then they are missing out for real. I’m not required to tell you that because I’m not your mom or your best friend. You can trust my words. Likewise, you should LOVE their personality, and if you don’t then someone else will. It’s not your responsibility to give someone the pity laugh every time you turn around. If you’re anything like me and grew up in the protestant evangelical church, then I’m sure you’re familiar with the Newsong/Natalie Grant song “When God Made You.” (You can reminisce here.) With all due respect, can we please stop making marriage the end-all be-all? Let’s live life to the fullest and stop being so concerned about something that Jesus already has taken care of!

Keep these things in mind and you too will end up being in a beautiful engagement photo like the ones above.

Stay tuned for the flip: break up advice! (Dun Dun Dun!!!)


Over and Out!