So if you want to know what a (semi) normal day looks like for a freshman at MNU…. Here you go! Meet my friends, walk around campus with me, and get to know what campus life is like! I had a lot of fun filming my day. The only thing I missed was the Masquerade that night for Halloween.
If you make it to the end… Major props to you!
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I can’t take credit for that wisdom, but in my experience, it is true.
When a relationship ends, it’s almost as if a whole person dies. When 2 people come together and form a dating relationship, the dynamic of the couple is like a 3rd friend. When that time is over, it’s like the third friend has left on bad terms, or even died but no one wants to acknowledge it. It affects everyone around, even those who weren’t involved. The two newly single people can catch a glimpse of each other from across campus and everyone within the local zip code feels the tension. I think it has something to do with quantum physics, but I’m no science major so don’t quote me on that.
There are 3 major people groups involved in a break up, as listed below:
1. The Hurting: The one who got broken up with- maybe didn’t see it coming.
2. The Healing: The one who broke off the relationship.
3. The Hating: The friends of the couple, or highly opinionated acquaintances.
Keep in mind that in whatever I’m about to say, I’m on your side. I’m writing as the completely unbiased third party, and won’t give you half-truths. There are absolutely situations that one person is completely wrong, but this is from the stand point that things just didn’t work out. If you are in any of these positions, I feel for you. It’s aca-awkward. So let’s dive in and relieve the tension.
To The Hurting: Be glad you’re not in a relationship with someone that doesn’t value you for all that you’re worth. Last week I kind of put Bruno Mars on blast, but the dude also has good things to say. For example, I wake up to “Treasure” every morning. The whole song is a booster, but there is a line that is fitting for this subject.
“You’re wonderful, flawless, ooh, you’re a sexy lady”
Lady or gentleman, you are wonderful. You are flawless. You are sexy! These are all Biblical. Don’t mistake a relationship fizzling as a reflection of your identity. The addition of a significant other does not change who you are. The absence of a significant other does not change who you are. I have no reason to lie. You are a dream come true. A masterpiece- Don’t get in your head and make everything a reflection of you. Start listening to the truth and tuning out the lies. To quote B. o. B., “You the whole package, plus you pay your taxes.” I know for a fact the first statement is true, and if the second is true, then you’re set for life.
To The Healing: Props to you for having the courage to end something that isn’t going any further. It’s never easy to let someone down, but the shorter the delay, the better. You may be concerned that your sig (or in this case ex-sig) is drowning themselves in tears or cookie dough ice cream, but don’t take that on. Don’t give yourself the credit of making or breaking someone’s life. Sure, this is painful for everyone involved, but you’re not the center of the universe, therefore, you cannot send anyone into an apocalypse. They will be fine and so will you. Be prepared though- this takes time. Don’t expect to go back to being friends within moments of ending it. That’s not good for you or them. Let them lay low for a while, and don’t force a conversation or moment to happen.
To The Hating: This blog is mostly for you. If you are a friend of a sig, then there’s no such thing as a third party. You probably have opinions. You probably have the best of intentions in supporting your friend. Sometimes, the lines of supportive and destructive get blurred. Things that start so positive end really horribly, like the riot in the movie, Hot Rod.
If you’re not familiar with the movie, the main character, Rod, played by Andy Samburg, is trying to raise funds for his dying stepfather’s heart transplant. While on his way to the fundraising event, the whole community comes alongside him and walks together with him. The song “You’re the Voice” by John Farnham plays over the dialogue and it is truly an inspiring moment in a weird, satirical movie. (Side note- this is my FAVORITE movie ever! Watch it if you haven’t because your life will be CHANGED!) Then the inevitable happens: a riot breaks out and the whole moment is killed in a matter of seconds.
I’m going to go as far to say that this actually happens more often on campus than we acknowledge. For example, a couple splits and the girl and guy go back to their respective same gender friends. The said friends both start consoling The Hurting and The Healing, and come alongside them in support. Somewhere along the lines, the opposing party (usually, The Healing,) becomes the enemy and it is a battle to get as many people in your army as possible. Tearing others down won’t make anyone any higher. This brings me to my first point:
Blowing out someone else’s candle will not make yours shine brighter.
One time, it was one of my professor’s 50th birthdays. My friend Emily and I got a small cake for him with 50 trick candles on top. We waited for him to go to class and proceeded to light all of said candles with the intention of disrupting his class and having a good laugh. The plan backfired. We definitely disrupted his class, because the flames came together and created one HUGE flame measuring up to 2 feet in height and nearly causing the entire business building to burn down. We busted into class, sang happy birthday, and then he made a wish, and tried to blow them out. This was the moment when I decided I hated trick candles, because the flames came back with a vengeance. The Lord was on our side, as it was a rainy day, and we RAN through the first floor of Metz, burst outside, and launched the now wet candles into the bushes. The cake was covered in rainbow wax and riddled in holes.. DEFINITELY inedible.
What if we, took our candles, and put them together to burn bright, instead of using them like torches to lead a riot? Maybe this is corny, but what if we loved our neighbors by supporting the good instead of condemning the bad? When talking to our Hurting and Healing friends, let’s make a point of reaffirming their qualities instead of bashing the bad. Forget boyfriend bonfires and remember the candle fiasco: it will change your paradigm.
What do you do if your Hurting friend is bashing their Healing ex-sig? It’s easy to jump on the wagon and want to join in with what they are saying. This brings me to my next point:
Not everything is black and white.
Keep in mind that the side of the story you are hearing when your friend is upset is tainted and not the most accurate. Don’t take those statements to the bank. Reaffirm your friend, and keep their candle shining, maybe even relight the flame. Use your powers for good and not for evil.
Do we all remember when Brad Pitt and Jennifer Aniston were married? They were my favorite Celebrity couple second only to Nick Lachey and Jessica Simpson. I remember the day like it was yesterday: I was watching Newly Weds on MTV and the screen went black for a Public Service Announcement: that Brad and Jen called it quits. People went nuts! If people were in support of Jen, then they wore pink ribbons, but if they were for Brad, they wore blue ribbons. It originally had to do with Aniston backing Breast Cancer Awareness, known world wide for the pink ribbon, and Angelina Jolie with the blue ribbons for Child Abuse Awareness, and because Brad switched partners he switched causes or something… the point is that choosing sides and viewing things as black and white gets you no where except for down a destructive road leading to drama, and nobody wants that!
Real talk though- One of the things I think Christians miss the most is unconditional love. It’s a tough concept to grasp. This brings me to my final point:
It is possible to support a person without supporting their decisions.
We’ve all heard the stories about the engaged couple we don’t agree with and the battle among the friends on deciding if they are going to go to their wedding or not because they don’t support the marriage. Perhaps you’ve had to decide whether you’re going to a wedding or not, or maybe you’ve just had to decide if you’re going to buy Miley’s new song because it’s catchy but you don’t want to support her craziness. Similar principle.
I don’t preach often. But this is a subject that gets me hyped.
I don’t think Jesus died to give us the power to judge and condemn and make known our opinions. He died to give us life abundant. To not support someone because of their decisions is the farthest thing from the Jesus way of life. Jesus went to the cheating tax collector’s home and shared a meal with him. He hung out with the prostitutes and touched the sick and unclean. And what’s cool is, despite my decisions, regardless of my actions, and irrespective of my choices, He’s there for me and continues to support me. If He didn’t, that would be conditional love, and our gospel would look a whole lot different.
Let’s now apply this to a break up among our friends: You may not agree with The Healing’s decision to end things. That doesn’t give you the right to step in and assume the role of God by judging them based on their actions. This does not give you divine permission to hate them, start a riot and put people against them. That is called slander, and the Word of God is clear about this. You may not have agreed with The Hurting’s decision to date The Healing in the first place. That doesn’t give you the right to bash anyone. People of the Christian world: Can we please eliminate the expectation of meeting a certain living standard to start loving and accepting others? If this were the law we lived by, we would have no need for the cross, and I, personally, would be screwed.
I want to leave you on a lighter note- and I think this video below sums up everything nicely. Watch how Sophia Grace builds up Miley with the truth and just radiates with love for her. Let’s love both The Hurting and The Healing the way these little ladies love everyone!
Well as you can tell by my title, this weekend was pretty sweet. Probably one of the most eventful weekends i’ve had since I’ve been here. So let the pictures begin! :]
To start off telling you guys about this eventful weekend, I thought id let you meet one of my friends. Well, here he is. His name is Daniel. and yes, you’re right, he IS balancing on top of a metal bar in our laundry room, or as the door tells us, the “Launders.” Maybe I should explain why this was happening. A couple of girls in our hall had their birthdays in the same week, so some of their friends decided to throw them a surprise party. This was his hiding place. Later that night, my roommate Amanda and I decided to go crazy and rearrange our whole room! This definitely was not a job we could do on our own.
I know by the looks of Amanda and I you would have never guessed that we needed help with our bed because we are basically body builders, but in result of me almost being crushed by the bedframe, we called in the boys from the surprise party to help us with our bed! It was super nice of them to come over and help us, I wouldn’t have wanted to leave a party to go move a bed. But they did it anyways! so if you are reading this, thank you guys! :] We greatly appreciated it! this is what my side of the room looked like before!
so this is what my side of the room looks like now!
The next night, this was Friday, the wonderful bible study I am in decided to all go to Ihop for late night breakfast! I am extremely blessed to able to know every single one of them!
Also, blueberry pancakes are the best pancakes EVER.
That next morning some of the dorms here at MNU came together and had a dorm event at the Louiseburg Cider Mill!
They had delicious hot cider, and sider doughnuts! I maybe ate 3 of them….
This is Amanda (my roomie) holding up our pumpkin family. We went to Wal-Mart on Saturday night to get some baby pumpkins! We decided to make them into a pumpkin family. It was a wonderful time! Later that night, after we were all finished painting our pumpkin family, my friend Annie Wiskus comes into my room holding these glow stars! I was SO excited because I had been looking all over for them so I could put on my ceiling! (I know, I’m a little girl) But she finally found them for me and I could not contain my excitement! :] Now I can see the solar system when I go to sleep at night. Which is all I’ve ever wanted in life! Just kidding. not all I’ve ever wanted…but pretty close! :] So guys, this was my weekend! I hope this gave you a glimpse of the wonderful memories that can take place with a wonderful community of people such as the one I have here at MNU!
My beautiful engaged friend, Kyndra and her fiance Justin.
My wonderful engaged friends Sam and Abi. Poster children!
My dear friends of MNU Blogs,
It seems like among high school and college aged students, relationships are the hot topic. I don’t know about you readers out there, but at least 75% of my conversations are about finding “the one” or dating or “talking” or something of the matter. This week alone I’ve had about 7 conversations about dating and relationships and it’s only Tuesday.
I find myself pondering the question: Why are these people coming to me? I’m not qualified to answer their questions and here are some of the reasons why I’m probably the worst person to come to:
I’m happily single and feel that college should be about spending as much time with as many people as possible before we leave. (Side note: I am a founding co-president of MNU’s unofficial evangelical organization TSFL: Team Single For Life.)
I don’t usually know anything about the relationship at hand. Most of the time, I don’t even know the significant other (from here on referred to as “sig,”) so I am completely one sided.
I am blunt. I tell things like it is. I’m not good at telling people what they want to hear when it’s not true.
On the other hand, maybe all of these things actually qualify me to give advice more. I don’t waste time in dating relationships if I know they’re not going anywhere. I am 100% PRO whoever I am talking to (we all need one of those friends.) And, I don’t waste my time sugar-coating the facts. Just today I was talking to a good friend of mine and she said, “Hey, you should write a blog. You have such good advice.” Well, it’s Tuesday, so here we go.
May I present: Relationship Advice From an Unlikely Source: The completely blunt unbiased third party advice you’re looking for in your relationship.
I remember when I was 16 and visiting some friends from my hometown. I asked my BFFL Kimberly about another one of our friends. “Is she going out with that guy??” and the words she said back to me are forever burned into the front of my mind. “Well, they’re talking.” I asked her to explain what this meant, and she said something ambiguously alluding to not officially dating but talking to each other exclusively and occasionally going out on dates. This brings me to point #1.
1. Talking is Dating, so call it what it is.
People act like if they say they are dating someone, then they are forever tied to them and have to marry them. NEWSFLASH: that would be called an engagement.
Hey, speaking of dating, whatever happened to guys asking girls out on dates? You know, the good ole fashioned dinner and skating at the local roller-rink? With the advances in technology, it seems like nowadays people are texting every minute of the day until one day a photo album on Facebook shows up called “I SAID YES!!!!!” This brings me to point #2.
2. If you aren’t going off campus together, you’re going nowhere together.
Let me speak to the ladies for a moment: You are worth a guy taking the time to ask you out on formal dates. You are worth a guy not being worried about what people will think if his partners in crime see him with you. He should be proud to be with you! Enough of this ridiculous virtual relationship stuff. Demand the best because you ARE the best. And you don’t have to take my word for it: the Bible spells it out. Check it out sometime. And if Jesus thinks you’re to die for, then whoever you’re with should too!
And to the men: it’s not your fault that you’re being given the easy option of emojis and snapchats instead of face to face interaction. Heck, if I were in your shoes, I’d choose free over wining (grape juicing?) and dining any day. I’m so sorry that we have lowered our standards and basically said “you’re never going to be able to treat me as a mature adult, so I’ll make it easy for you.” We’ve trained you that virtual relationships are okay, and I would like to personally apologize on behalf of Christian women in America that we have killed the chase, made it easy, and are readily waiting for no effort on your end at all. Do us a favor, and don’t settle for someone who says you’re incapable of wooing us over. It’ll make you better and make us shape up to be the women Christ calls us to be.
I’ve talked to some friends recently that have been torn because they are in either a pseudo-relationship or a full blown committed relationship, but the feelings aren’t really there. They are afraid to leave because they fear “being forever alone” and that if they don’t stay in the relationship, then they won’t ever find anyone better and they’ll die alone. I’ve also talked to singles who are not in a relationship and are depressed that they aren’t planning a wedding with their graduation party. This leads me to my next point:
3. Quit being ridiculous and start being honest.
It is absolutely ridiculous that people fear the gift of celibacy. Let me reassure you that if you crave a relationship, you probably don’t have it! PS- You are 20 years old. Marriage is a commitment FOR LIFE. The national average for marriage is in the 27-29 year mark. Average life expectancy for Americans is 80 years. You have 60 years to find someone… And can we even call it finding someone? Doesn’t God have this world in His hands? Can we start trusting that He has our best interest in mind and will give us the people in our lives that we need? I’m no ministry major, but I’ve been to a lot of chapel and church services and I think that’s Biblical. And if you’re not feeling it, you’re not feeling it. That’s the most admirable reason to break off a relationship IMO (in my opinion.) If your sig isn’t what you’re looking for, or if the feelings aren’t there, then let them go because chances are you’re not the one for them either. Literally, no one can reprimand you for being honest about your feelings. They can reprimand you for ignoring your feelings and then having them all come up later like a volcanic eruption. That’s when this question gets thrown out: “Why didn’t you tell me you felt this way? What else have you been withholding?” Nip that sucker in the bud and move on. And in the spirit of honesty, nobody likes confrontation. Get it over with so you can stop being consumed with it.
Researchers estimate that 40-50% of first time marriages end in divorce, and 60% of second marriages end in divorce or permanent separation. As you can probably guess, it’s time for point #4.
4. Don’t be a statistic.
In the words of Bruno Mars, “It’s a beautiful night, we’re looking for something dumb to do. Hey baby, I think I wanna marry you.” Don’t sit on the other side of the computer and act like you’ve never danced to that song. I don’t blame you. It’s so catchy! But if marriage becomes an item on your list to check off, it’s time to reevaluate. Mars goes on to say “If we wake up and we wanna break up, that’s coooooool…” Friends of the United States of America: If your sig says or alludes this to you, it’s time to break up with them right then and there. More importantly, if you have this thought in the back of your mind, you’re probably not ready to make the commitment of holy matrimony. Maybe instead of listing getting married and starting a family a part of your 5 year plan, you should set other goals and let The good Lord surprise you with the desires of your heart. It will happen when you are least expecting it, so stop planning for it. You ain’t no Kardashian. Start loving where you’re at. Take advantage of the short amount of time you have as a single young adult and travel! Do things that take you out of your comfort zone and grow as an individual!
Once upon a time I had a friend going through something. For the sake of the story, we’ll call her Nancy. Nancy was like, IN LOVE with this dude, we’ll call him Rob. Rob was that guy in high school that everyone loved because he was awesome and everyone secretly hated because they wanted to be him. Nancy was your average girl next door, but obviously with a great sense of humor because she was friends with me. One day, Rob started taking interest in Nancy. He asked her to go out on dates, and then after about three weeks they made it FBO (Facebook Official.) Sounds like a classic romantic comedy? Well that’s because it was. Except Nancy became this alternate quiet opinionless person around Rob because she was afraid that her bold personality would scare him off. She didn’t feel comfortable around him. This leads me to my final point:
5. If you’re not having fun, then the relationship is done.
Yes, relationships are work. But the payoff should be worth it! If you can’t be yourself, you’ll drive yourself crazy. Don’t be a people pleaser. Sure, be agreeable and kind. And yes, I get the Biblical principle about women submitting to their men and husbands loving their wives, but I also understand that Jesus calls us to be BOLD and take on the courage of a lion! Enjoy being yourself, because baby, you were born this way. Annnd enjoy your sig being themselves too! They should LOVE your personality, and if they don’t, then they are missing out for real. I’m not required to tell you that because I’m not your mom or your best friend. You can trust my words. Likewise, you should LOVE their personality, and if you don’t then someone else will. It’s not your responsibility to give someone the pity laugh every time you turn around. If you’re anything like me and grew up in the protestant evangelical church, then I’m sure you’re familiar with the Newsong/Natalie Grant song “When God Made You.” (You can reminisce here.) With all due respect, can we please stop making marriage the end-all be-all? Let’s live life to the fullest and stop being so concerned about something that Jesus already has taken care of!
Keep these things in mind and you too will end up being in a beautiful engagement photo like the ones above.
Stay tuned for the flip: break up advice! (Dun Dun Dun!!!)
So it has only been a couple of months since I first moved in on campus and started school. Currently MNU students are on fall break, so I had the chance to meet with some old friends. A lot of them ask about my favorite parts about being in college, which gave me the idea of writing about them in this blog! (Some of these are unique to MNU and others are just about the college life in general)
Here they are, my top ten favorites!
1. Late night Walmart runs!
Walmart runs usually are a last minute decision, and they almost always happen near curfew. My friend Rachel here is stocking up for the week.
2. Eating in Class
The answer is yes, yes you can eat in class in college! This picture is of my breakfast (a devoured blueberry muffin) that I didn’t quite have time for that morning. No worries! Finish it in class!
3. Ice cream machine in Campus Center
I am aware that the last few have been all about food, but what can I say! I’m a college student. This one I’m sure is most students’ favorite.
In college you get many opportunities. They are especially needed on the late night-early morning combination days. (Monday, Wednesday, Friday are my days)
5. Movie nights with your best friends nearly every night!
This has become a daily event in the dorms. Which may not be the best idea on the night before 8 am classes….. but you know!
6. All of the many ASG events!
Thrift Store Prom, White Light Event, Car Bash, Smoovie night, and many many more! There is an event it seems nearly every week. This was at the hoedown last week.
7. Going to a small school…. But not too small
There are many perks to this in my opinion. People you’ve met once remember your name and care about you, yet you can still meet more new people all the time! Another perk is making the website fairly easily. Look at me, I was so ready for that picture.
8. Choosing classes your interested in!
Now of course you have your common core classes you have to take, but you still have options with those. You can choose your schedule, your classes, and overall you just feel very independent! And something I love that is unique to MNU is having professors of those classes that care. You aren’t just a number at MNU, but you matter!
9. Spiritual Life
Chapels at MNU are amazing! You have so many different options throughout the week to experience the Lord. This chapel is from student-led chapel in Bell on Thursday.
MNU gives you opportunities to join small groups as well! This is my girls small group!
10. MEETING SOME LIFE-LONG FRIENDS
These people are some of the greatest I have ever met! I am missing a few, but I truly love all of them!
Anyways that’s my blog for the week…
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If you came to my blog thinking it would be about Miley Cyrus…then there’s a good chance that you’re probably going to be very upset with me because my blog has nothing to do with Miley…
It’s actually about Football.
Yup…that’s right…today’s post is dedicated to Saturday’s football game against Baker University.
Just imagine sitting outside in the stands on a sunny day.
The air is cool, and the wind has entangled itself around you.
The shouting crowd tingles your ear-buds and sends a rush of adrenaline straight to your heart. Everyone around you has their feet off the ground; they jump in unison, and create a loud bang as the bottom of their soles come crashing down into the steel bleachers underneath them.
You are pumped now.
The blood is racing through your veins, and you’re shouting from the top of your lungs.
“Go team, go!” you yell…
“You can do it!” you shout again.
You believe in your team and you know they have the potential to win.
But then the silence comes…
And the clouds cover the bright sky.
The blood in your veins have slowed, and you’re beginning to feel cold now.
You are dumbfounded, and you can not believe your eyes.
Your team has just lost to their BIGGEST rivals.
The Crowd facing the lost of one of the most memorable football games.
First off, I’d like to say that our t-shirts cursed us! I mean, come on! It was the curse of the shirts! After a thirteen year streak of winning against Baker, I believe this was one of the first years we’ve decided to create a shirt.
I had actually considered burning this shirt…but I love MNU way too much.
We walked into the stadium confident…but it just wasn’t happening for us, and i’d like to blame it on the shirt!
However, although we were losing, we found a way to keep our spirits high during half time.
I won’t say much as to what happened; I’ll let your imagination do all the talking…but just know…homecoming was a week away for us…and no, these are not the actual candidates.
The King and Queen!
The lost was hard–they did come in like a wrecking ball–and on days like this I have to remind myself that it’s just a game.
The world Isn’t going to end.
MNU Isn’t going to go out of business
and our football team will have good games, and they’ll have bad games.
It’s the people who make the team, and it’s the school who shapes those people. A game doesn’t define us as a whole. We are who we are and I love my school.
So, with that said, how do you cheer up a sad pioneer?
Hello Blog World!
This is my first blog, ever. And I am so incredibly excited. First off I wanted to start by telling you guys how I got to MNU, and my amazing experience here so far!
So as I was looking for colleges I decided that I would probably prefer a Christian college over a state school. I looked at many colleges before MNU, but I never really got that feeling that I needed to be at any of them.
I have this friend that I know from church, her name is Kayla Rotola and she actually attended MNU! My mom is a realtor so she ended up helping her sell her house. So one day Kayla asked my mom where I was looking at for colleges and you know, I had no idea yet, and I also had never heard of MNU because I am not originally Nazarene, so my mom told her I was undecided. Kayla told her right after that, that we should definitely come check out MNU because it’s super amazing.
Shortly after this conversation we set up a visit to MNU, and I fell in love. I fell in love not only with this beautiful campus, but with the community here! As soon as we stepped on campus, I felt like I belonged here. It was definitely a God thing. I also love all of our Mission opportunities, the opportunities to serve around the community, and the majors that we offer.
Ever since that first visit I couldn’t get MNU out of my mind. It was a long process to get here, but I definitely don’t regret my decision AT ALL. :]
So there’s my story of how I got here! Now for some lovely pictures of the events and all that has taken place since I first arrived on campus!
This is my side of the room! :] it’s a tricky process getting in and out of bed sometimes, but overall, having a bunk bed makes me feel like a little kid again. Which is always great!
This was one of the first nights we came to MNU, the people in these pictures are a
part of my freshman seminar class! We had a volleyball tournament that night and
sprayed our hair orange! It was a blast. Unfortunately we only one 1 game, but
overall it was a good time.
This was our Black light event in Land Gym. They decorated the gym with these pretty lights and everyone dressed up! They had a chocolate fountain, music playing, and coffee, (which was my favorite part.)
This was our first home volleyball game! They are pretty awesome! I played volleyball all throughout high school, so it was a great time watching them and cheering them on.
Just this past week we had our thrift store prom! We go to a skating rink, dressed in the best thrift store attire. And yes, I am wearing a gross brown colored wolf shirt, a flower crown, AND a calculator watch. It was great. :]
Last but not least, this past weekend I got the opportunity to go home with one of my friends Annie and play guitar and sing worship for her church! We had such a wonderful time and it was an amazing experience!
So this is just a glimpse of what my life has consisted of these past 7 weeks! I hope you enjoyed seeing all of the things I’ve been doing and experiencing around here. I am so thankful for the amazing people the God has placed in my life already, and how he’s working on this campus!