Pictures capture a moment in time. A spot in history that can never be truly replicated. Snapping the obnoxious laughter from a more-corny-than-actually-humorous joke or catching the relief of a runner crossing the finish line is a fulfilling feeling. But it’s not fulfilling simply because the picture isn’t blurry. It’s fulfilling because there’s a story behind the picture. This story can impact the way you live because it molds the way you view life, people, and individual moments. Maybe it’s obvious and maybe it’s up to interpretation. For example, the corny joke is from a blooming friendship that is an answered prayer and the relieved runner has been training for months after forgetting what running meant.
There are numerous different things in life that can present opportunity for you to pour yourself into. For me, photography is one.
Here’s some of my “work”
(LOL, work? I was just being creepy, well like, kind of, never mind…)
Look at life through a different pair of glasses; who knows, maybe it will be a perfect fit. Don’t be afraid to try new things. They can become the things that mean the most to you. It doesn’t matter how good you are at it! The passion is yours, do with it what you will and make it matter.
I can’t take credit for that wisdom, but in my experience, it is true.
When a relationship ends, it’s almost as if a whole person dies. When 2 people come together and form a dating relationship, the dynamic of the couple is like a 3rd friend. When that time is over, it’s like the third friend has left on bad terms, or even died but no one wants to acknowledge it. It affects everyone around, even those who weren’t involved. The two newly single people can catch a glimpse of each other from across campus and everyone within the local zip code feels the tension. I think it has something to do with quantum physics, but I’m no science major so don’t quote me on that.
There are 3 major people groups involved in a break up, as listed below:
1. The Hurting: The one who got broken up with- maybe didn’t see it coming.
2. The Healing: The one who broke off the relationship.
3. The Hating: The friends of the couple, or highly opinionated acquaintances.
Keep in mind that in whatever I’m about to say, I’m on your side. I’m writing as the completely unbiased third party, and won’t give you half-truths. There are absolutely situations that one person is completely wrong, but this is from the stand point that things just didn’t work out. If you are in any of these positions, I feel for you. It’s aca-awkward. So let’s dive in and relieve the tension.
To The Hurting: Be glad you’re not in a relationship with someone that doesn’t value you for all that you’re worth. Last week I kind of put Bruno Mars on blast, but the dude also has good things to say. For example, I wake up to “Treasure” every morning. The whole song is a booster, but there is a line that is fitting for this subject.
“You’re wonderful, flawless, ooh, you’re a sexy lady”
Lady or gentleman, you are wonderful. You are flawless. You are sexy! These are all Biblical. Don’t mistake a relationship fizzling as a reflection of your identity. The addition of a significant other does not change who you are. The absence of a significant other does not change who you are. I have no reason to lie. You are a dream come true. A masterpiece- Don’t get in your head and make everything a reflection of you. Start listening to the truth and tuning out the lies. To quote B. o. B., “You the whole package, plus you pay your taxes.” I know for a fact the first statement is true, and if the second is true, then you’re set for life.
To The Healing: Props to you for having the courage to end something that isn’t going any further. It’s never easy to let someone down, but the shorter the delay, the better. You may be concerned that your sig (or in this case ex-sig) is drowning themselves in tears or cookie dough ice cream, but don’t take that on. Don’t give yourself the credit of making or breaking someone’s life. Sure, this is painful for everyone involved, but you’re not the center of the universe, therefore, you cannot send anyone into an apocalypse. They will be fine and so will you. Be prepared though- this takes time. Don’t expect to go back to being friends within moments of ending it. That’s not good for you or them. Let them lay low for a while, and don’t force a conversation or moment to happen.
To The Hating: This blog is mostly for you. If you are a friend of a sig, then there’s no such thing as a third party. You probably have opinions. You probably have the best of intentions in supporting your friend. Sometimes, the lines of supportive and destructive get blurred. Things that start so positive end really horribly, like the riot in the movie, Hot Rod.
If you’re not familiar with the movie, the main character, Rod, played by Andy Samburg, is trying to raise funds for his dying stepfather’s heart transplant. While on his way to the fundraising event, the whole community comes alongside him and walks together with him. The song “You’re the Voice” by John Farnham plays over the dialogue and it is truly an inspiring moment in a weird, satirical movie. (Side note- this is my FAVORITE movie ever! Watch it if you haven’t because your life will be CHANGED!) Then the inevitable happens: a riot breaks out and the whole moment is killed in a matter of seconds.
I’m going to go as far to say that this actually happens more often on campus than we acknowledge. For example, a couple splits and the girl and guy go back to their respective same gender friends. The said friends both start consoling The Hurting and The Healing, and come alongside them in support. Somewhere along the lines, the opposing party (usually, The Healing,) becomes the enemy and it is a battle to get as many people in your army as possible. Tearing others down won’t make anyone any higher. This brings me to my first point:
Blowing out someone else’s candle will not make yours shine brighter.
One time, it was one of my professor’s 50th birthdays. My friend Emily and I got a small cake for him with 50 trick candles on top. We waited for him to go to class and proceeded to light all of said candles with the intention of disrupting his class and having a good laugh. The plan backfired. We definitely disrupted his class, because the flames came together and created one HUGE flame measuring up to 2 feet in height and nearly causing the entire business building to burn down. We busted into class, sang happy birthday, and then he made a wish, and tried to blow them out. This was the moment when I decided I hated trick candles, because the flames came back with a vengeance. The Lord was on our side, as it was a rainy day, and we RAN through the first floor of Metz, burst outside, and launched the now wet candles into the bushes. The cake was covered in rainbow wax and riddled in holes.. DEFINITELY inedible.
What if we, took our candles, and put them together to burn bright, instead of using them like torches to lead a riot? Maybe this is corny, but what if we loved our neighbors by supporting the good instead of condemning the bad? When talking to our Hurting and Healing friends, let’s make a point of reaffirming their qualities instead of bashing the bad. Forget boyfriend bonfires and remember the candle fiasco: it will change your paradigm.
What do you do if your Hurting friend is bashing their Healing ex-sig? It’s easy to jump on the wagon and want to join in with what they are saying. This brings me to my next point:
Not everything is black and white.
Keep in mind that the side of the story you are hearing when your friend is upset is tainted and not the most accurate. Don’t take those statements to the bank. Reaffirm your friend, and keep their candle shining, maybe even relight the flame. Use your powers for good and not for evil.
Do we all remember when Brad Pitt and Jennifer Aniston were married? They were my favorite Celebrity couple second only to Nick Lachey and Jessica Simpson. I remember the day like it was yesterday: I was watching Newly Weds on MTV and the screen went black for a Public Service Announcement: that Brad and Jen called it quits. People went nuts! If people were in support of Jen, then they wore pink ribbons, but if they were for Brad, they wore blue ribbons. It originally had to do with Aniston backing Breast Cancer Awareness, known world wide for the pink ribbon, and Angelina Jolie with the blue ribbons for Child Abuse Awareness, and because Brad switched partners he switched causes or something… the point is that choosing sides and viewing things as black and white gets you no where except for down a destructive road leading to drama, and nobody wants that!
Real talk though- One of the things I think Christians miss the most is unconditional love. It’s a tough concept to grasp. This brings me to my final point:
It is possible to support a person without supporting their decisions.
We’ve all heard the stories about the engaged couple we don’t agree with and the battle among the friends on deciding if they are going to go to their wedding or not because they don’t support the marriage. Perhaps you’ve had to decide whether you’re going to a wedding or not, or maybe you’ve just had to decide if you’re going to buy Miley’s new song because it’s catchy but you don’t want to support her craziness. Similar principle.
I don’t preach often. But this is a subject that gets me hyped.
I don’t think Jesus died to give us the power to judge and condemn and make known our opinions. He died to give us life abundant. To not support someone because of their decisions is the farthest thing from the Jesus way of life. Jesus went to the cheating tax collector’s home and shared a meal with him. He hung out with the prostitutes and touched the sick and unclean. And what’s cool is, despite my decisions, regardless of my actions, and irrespective of my choices, He’s there for me and continues to support me. If He didn’t, that would be conditional love, and our gospel would look a whole lot different.
Let’s now apply this to a break up among our friends: You may not agree with The Healing’s decision to end things. That doesn’t give you the right to step in and assume the role of God by judging them based on their actions. This does not give you divine permission to hate them, start a riot and put people against them. That is called slander, and the Word of God is clear about this. You may not have agreed with The Hurting’s decision to date The Healing in the first place. That doesn’t give you the right to bash anyone. People of the Christian world: Can we please eliminate the expectation of meeting a certain living standard to start loving and accepting others? If this were the law we lived by, we would have no need for the cross, and I, personally, would be screwed.
I want to leave you on a lighter note- and I think this video below sums up everything nicely. Watch how Sophia Grace builds up Miley with the truth and just radiates with love for her. Let’s love both The Hurting and The Healing the way these little ladies love everyone!
My beautiful engaged friend, Kyndra and her fiance Justin.
My wonderful engaged friends Sam and Abi. Poster children!
My dear friends of MNU Blogs,
It seems like among high school and college aged students, relationships are the hot topic. I don’t know about you readers out there, but at least 75% of my conversations are about finding “the one” or dating or “talking” or something of the matter. This week alone I’ve had about 7 conversations about dating and relationships and it’s only Tuesday.
I find myself pondering the question: Why are these people coming to me? I’m not qualified to answer their questions and here are some of the reasons why I’m probably the worst person to come to:
I’m happily single and feel that college should be about spending as much time with as many people as possible before we leave. (Side note: I am a founding co-president of MNU’s unofficial evangelical organization TSFL: Team Single For Life.)
I don’t usually know anything about the relationship at hand. Most of the time, I don’t even know the significant other (from here on referred to as “sig,”) so I am completely one sided.
I am blunt. I tell things like it is. I’m not good at telling people what they want to hear when it’s not true.
On the other hand, maybe all of these things actually qualify me to give advice more. I don’t waste time in dating relationships if I know they’re not going anywhere. I am 100% PRO whoever I am talking to (we all need one of those friends.) And, I don’t waste my time sugar-coating the facts. Just today I was talking to a good friend of mine and she said, “Hey, you should write a blog. You have such good advice.” Well, it’s Tuesday, so here we go.
May I present: Relationship Advice From an Unlikely Source: The completely blunt unbiased third party advice you’re looking for in your relationship.
I remember when I was 16 and visiting some friends from my hometown. I asked my BFFL Kimberly about another one of our friends. “Is she going out with that guy??” and the words she said back to me are forever burned into the front of my mind. “Well, they’re talking.” I asked her to explain what this meant, and she said something ambiguously alluding to not officially dating but talking to each other exclusively and occasionally going out on dates. This brings me to point #1.
1. Talking is Dating, so call it what it is.
People act like if they say they are dating someone, then they are forever tied to them and have to marry them. NEWSFLASH: that would be called an engagement.
Hey, speaking of dating, whatever happened to guys asking girls out on dates? You know, the good ole fashioned dinner and skating at the local roller-rink? With the advances in technology, it seems like nowadays people are texting every minute of the day until one day a photo album on Facebook shows up called “I SAID YES!!!!!” This brings me to point #2.
2. If you aren’t going off campus together, you’re going nowhere together.
Let me speak to the ladies for a moment: You are worth a guy taking the time to ask you out on formal dates. You are worth a guy not being worried about what people will think if his partners in crime see him with you. He should be proud to be with you! Enough of this ridiculous virtual relationship stuff. Demand the best because you ARE the best. And you don’t have to take my word for it: the Bible spells it out. Check it out sometime. And if Jesus thinks you’re to die for, then whoever you’re with should too!
And to the men: it’s not your fault that you’re being given the easy option of emojis and snapchats instead of face to face interaction. Heck, if I were in your shoes, I’d choose free over wining (grape juicing?) and dining any day. I’m so sorry that we have lowered our standards and basically said “you’re never going to be able to treat me as a mature adult, so I’ll make it easy for you.” We’ve trained you that virtual relationships are okay, and I would like to personally apologize on behalf of Christian women in America that we have killed the chase, made it easy, and are readily waiting for no effort on your end at all. Do us a favor, and don’t settle for someone who says you’re incapable of wooing us over. It’ll make you better and make us shape up to be the women Christ calls us to be.
I’ve talked to some friends recently that have been torn because they are in either a pseudo-relationship or a full blown committed relationship, but the feelings aren’t really there. They are afraid to leave because they fear “being forever alone” and that if they don’t stay in the relationship, then they won’t ever find anyone better and they’ll die alone. I’ve also talked to singles who are not in a relationship and are depressed that they aren’t planning a wedding with their graduation party. This leads me to my next point:
3. Quit being ridiculous and start being honest.
It is absolutely ridiculous that people fear the gift of celibacy. Let me reassure you that if you crave a relationship, you probably don’t have it! PS- You are 20 years old. Marriage is a commitment FOR LIFE. The national average for marriage is in the 27-29 year mark. Average life expectancy for Americans is 80 years. You have 60 years to find someone… And can we even call it finding someone? Doesn’t God have this world in His hands? Can we start trusting that He has our best interest in mind and will give us the people in our lives that we need? I’m no ministry major, but I’ve been to a lot of chapel and church services and I think that’s Biblical. And if you’re not feeling it, you’re not feeling it. That’s the most admirable reason to break off a relationship IMO (in my opinion.) If your sig isn’t what you’re looking for, or if the feelings aren’t there, then let them go because chances are you’re not the one for them either. Literally, no one can reprimand you for being honest about your feelings. They can reprimand you for ignoring your feelings and then having them all come up later like a volcanic eruption. That’s when this question gets thrown out: “Why didn’t you tell me you felt this way? What else have you been withholding?” Nip that sucker in the bud and move on. And in the spirit of honesty, nobody likes confrontation. Get it over with so you can stop being consumed with it.
Researchers estimate that 40-50% of first time marriages end in divorce, and 60% of second marriages end in divorce or permanent separation. As you can probably guess, it’s time for point #4.
4. Don’t be a statistic.
In the words of Bruno Mars, “It’s a beautiful night, we’re looking for something dumb to do. Hey baby, I think I wanna marry you.” Don’t sit on the other side of the computer and act like you’ve never danced to that song. I don’t blame you. It’s so catchy! But if marriage becomes an item on your list to check off, it’s time to reevaluate. Mars goes on to say “If we wake up and we wanna break up, that’s coooooool…” Friends of the United States of America: If your sig says or alludes this to you, it’s time to break up with them right then and there. More importantly, if you have this thought in the back of your mind, you’re probably not ready to make the commitment of holy matrimony. Maybe instead of listing getting married and starting a family a part of your 5 year plan, you should set other goals and let The good Lord surprise you with the desires of your heart. It will happen when you are least expecting it, so stop planning for it. You ain’t no Kardashian. Start loving where you’re at. Take advantage of the short amount of time you have as a single young adult and travel! Do things that take you out of your comfort zone and grow as an individual!
Once upon a time I had a friend going through something. For the sake of the story, we’ll call her Nancy. Nancy was like, IN LOVE with this dude, we’ll call him Rob. Rob was that guy in high school that everyone loved because he was awesome and everyone secretly hated because they wanted to be him. Nancy was your average girl next door, but obviously with a great sense of humor because she was friends with me. One day, Rob started taking interest in Nancy. He asked her to go out on dates, and then after about three weeks they made it FBO (Facebook Official.) Sounds like a classic romantic comedy? Well that’s because it was. Except Nancy became this alternate quiet opinionless person around Rob because she was afraid that her bold personality would scare him off. She didn’t feel comfortable around him. This leads me to my final point:
5. If you’re not having fun, then the relationship is done.
Yes, relationships are work. But the payoff should be worth it! If you can’t be yourself, you’ll drive yourself crazy. Don’t be a people pleaser. Sure, be agreeable and kind. And yes, I get the Biblical principle about women submitting to their men and husbands loving their wives, but I also understand that Jesus calls us to be BOLD and take on the courage of a lion! Enjoy being yourself, because baby, you were born this way. Annnd enjoy your sig being themselves too! They should LOVE your personality, and if they don’t, then they are missing out for real. I’m not required to tell you that because I’m not your mom or your best friend. You can trust my words. Likewise, you should LOVE their personality, and if you don’t then someone else will. It’s not your responsibility to give someone the pity laugh every time you turn around. If you’re anything like me and grew up in the protestant evangelical church, then I’m sure you’re familiar with the Newsong/Natalie Grant song “When God Made You.” (You can reminisce here.) With all due respect, can we please stop making marriage the end-all be-all? Let’s live life to the fullest and stop being so concerned about something that Jesus already has taken care of!
Keep these things in mind and you too will end up being in a beautiful engagement photo like the ones above.
Stay tuned for the flip: break up advice! (Dun Dun Dun!!!)
Eleanor Roosevelt, in all of her sorta-creepy-I-married-my-fifth-cousin, wisdom tells us,
“Many people will walk in and out of your life, But only true friends will leave footprints in your heart”
While I would respect this opinion and agree that it could hold some weight in a normal person’s view, I would contend that true friends don’t just leave footprints.
True friends come in and jack stuff up.
They decide to rearrange the completely thought out organization of your life. They even like to steal your popcorn maker your mom got you for your birthday or prank you with literal dog poop. See, you don’t always realize the impact these type of friends leave because you’re too busy laughing and having no idea what is actually happening. You realize the impact when you look back and see how their life has collided with yours and now that’s just the norm.
I would like to dedicate this blog to one of my great-not-always-mentioned-and-makes-a-big-deal-when-she-isn’t-in-my-blog-obnoxious friends
Annie and I met last year at the White Light event. Josh, my roommate, knew her and her roommate Lauren (Josh and Lauren are dating now, totes dorbs). My name tag said, “Yosef”. The beast I am, I pulled it off, at least for about 20 minutes. I am ridiculed to this day about how our friendship is based on lies. I think that’s why Annie and I got on each other’s nerves on and off for a large part of our freshman year. Yet, something changed when we found out we were going to be on the MNU Serve Team together this summer.
This is where Annie and I’s friendship took off. We put aside our differences and Annie even started a count-up of our legitimate friendship. We even reserved the back two seats of the van for all of our shenanigans. Needless to say, it got REAL crazy.
We had endless inside jokes, numerous random photo ops, spurts of energy that annoyed everyone in the van, great deep theological talks, and even some pranks.
This is just a sample of how we get. I like to classify Annie as THAT friend that brings out the weird in people. It’s literally a phenomena that even the scientific method can’t come close to comprehending it.
Through all of the crazy, off-the-wall ventures of this summer Annie’s and I friendship no longer needed a count-up. I think we became actually friends.
In all reality, Annie is one of the most inspirational to me. She is someone who has a heart for missions and is always seeking God in that. Her insight is typically a breath of fresh air to my typical narrowed-man thinking. She is who she is and she isn’t ashamed of it. I can honestly say she has impacted my life in such a positive manner; whether keeping me in check or putting things in perspective.
Now, you may be wondering how this reflects MidAmerica; understandable. See, friendships like Annie and I’s are not hard to come by at place like this. You can see the transformation the Lord has done in both of our lives which has allowed our friendship to flourish. To be honest, we have both matured. Which is weird because we are pretty immature. Anyway, this one example just reflects the Lord’s power and is an example of how he uses people to direct your life.
Shortly put, THIS ISMNU
Keep on and keep God,
Right outside SnowBarger, i took this on my way to Class, or maybe Lunch….
a couple of summers ago, gas was over 4 dollars!! This is a pleasant thing indeed. Now I must say I got this gas in Missouri- where the gas is always cheaper. So if you are ever there and are on your way to Kansas, fill up!
I’m personally a fan of QT!!
Well then, regarding the title of this blog,
Meet one of the very few presidential friends i have: George
I thought it’d be important to share with you all the reality and importance of money. It’s been said several times that money causes problems, I would suggest that it’s the lack of money that causes problems. And, His Word says that it is, “the love of money that is the root of all kinds of evil…” (1 Timothy 6:10) So money is often related to stress. But friends, hear the words of Jesus; this will be relatively long, but trust me, and trust Him, His words are worth reading:
“No one can serve two masters. Either you will hate the one and love the other, or you will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and money. “Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes?Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life?
“And why do you worry about clothes? See how the flowers of the field grow. They do not labor or spin.Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these.If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you—you of little faith? So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them.But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.”
Can He get an Amen?
Friends, let me testify (bear witness/tell you what I have seen/what I know) He is faithful. God provides. I am thankful that he has provided for me a job that is on campus. There are people here that have cared enough to offer me work in the Campus Center Cafeteria. Steve Richmond is the man I am shouting out to! Then the peeps in the Office of University Advancement. Thanks to graduated Pioneer, Claire McCoy and my immediate supervisor Melanie Smith, and other supervisors, Lori, Paula, Kathy, Roger, Tom, Jeremy, Kevin and all the other great people that care about me in the UA Office!
Now I confess that I am spoiledly blessed. But friends know that there is not one that is any more special or loved by God He “does not show favoritism” -Romans 2:11. However, know that each and every individual is still special and loved by God!! For whatever reason, the Creator of the galaxies, the star breathing, universe creating-God deems us worthy and cares about us!
We matter to Him.
Being at MNU and having opportunities and doors open for me has been incredible. I’m doing my best not to take it for granted. He uses the people here to find me scholarships, and He impresses upon the hearts of His kids to demonstrate His love by being blessings to others.
Whatever your care–especially in the case of money, know that God is faithful to provide. Actively anticipate His work and direction in your life. Earnestly seek Him and Follow HIM!! When He opens doors, and presents opportunities: Carpe Diem.
You are loved friends. You can rest assured that you can trust Him. You can follow Him.
Toodles for now!
Grateful in Him,
Mario Paul Flores
“Make me to know Your ways oh Lord, teach me Your paths.” -Psalm 25:4.
Hello Blog World!
This is my first blog, ever. And I am so incredibly excited. First off I wanted to start by telling you guys how I got to MNU, and my amazing experience here so far!
So as I was looking for colleges I decided that I would probably prefer a Christian college over a state school. I looked at many colleges before MNU, but I never really got that feeling that I needed to be at any of them.
I have this friend that I know from church, her name is Kayla Rotola and she actually attended MNU! My mom is a realtor so she ended up helping her sell her house. So one day Kayla asked my mom where I was looking at for colleges and you know, I had no idea yet, and I also had never heard of MNU because I am not originally Nazarene, so my mom told her I was undecided. Kayla told her right after that, that we should definitely come check out MNU because it’s super amazing.
Shortly after this conversation we set up a visit to MNU, and I fell in love. I fell in love not only with this beautiful campus, but with the community here! As soon as we stepped on campus, I felt like I belonged here. It was definitely a God thing. I also love all of our Mission opportunities, the opportunities to serve around the community, and the majors that we offer.
Ever since that first visit I couldn’t get MNU out of my mind. It was a long process to get here, but I definitely don’t regret my decision AT ALL. :]
So there’s my story of how I got here! Now for some lovely pictures of the events and all that has taken place since I first arrived on campus!
This is my side of the room! :] it’s a tricky process getting in and out of bed sometimes, but overall, having a bunk bed makes me feel like a little kid again. Which is always great!
This was one of the first nights we came to MNU, the people in these pictures are a
part of my freshman seminar class! We had a volleyball tournament that night and
sprayed our hair orange! It was a blast. Unfortunately we only one 1 game, but
overall it was a good time.
This was our Black light event in Land Gym. They decorated the gym with these pretty lights and everyone dressed up! They had a chocolate fountain, music playing, and coffee, (which was my favorite part.)
This was our first home volleyball game! They are pretty awesome! I played volleyball all throughout high school, so it was a great time watching them and cheering them on.
Just this past week we had our thrift store prom! We go to a skating rink, dressed in the best thrift store attire. And yes, I am wearing a gross brown colored wolf shirt, a flower crown, AND a calculator watch. It was great. :]
Last but not least, this past weekend I got the opportunity to go home with one of my friends Annie and play guitar and sing worship for her church! We had such a wonderful time and it was an amazing experience!
So this is just a glimpse of what my life has consisted of these past 7 weeks! I hope you enjoyed seeing all of the things I’ve been doing and experiencing around here. I am so thankful for the amazing people the God has placed in my life already, and how he’s working on this campus!
First things first: Girls will be girls…as boys will be boys…
There will be some nights when you just want to exile everyone in the dorm out onto the streets. There will be loudness; there will be chaos, and you can’t escape it…Uh-huh, nope! That’s the sweetness of living in a community style dorm. You’d think those cinder-block walls will block the sounds, but nah, that doesn’t keep everything out–you will hear your neighbor, whether you’re eavesdropping or you’re just lounging around; trust me, it will happen! There might be a game of hallway Frisbee (I played it last year…it was stinkin awesome!) Or…there might be people lounging in the halls, skyping or watching netflix. Either way, life will be unfolding–EVERYWHERE–right before your eyes. I’d suggest taking a breath, drinking some tea, and forgetting that silence ever even existed. It’s not too bad once you get the hang of it, and if it really bothers you, you can always invest in ear plugs. Or, you could join in–Hey, if you can’t beat ‘em, join ‘em!
Here’s a picture of what the hallways will look like!
The truth about the bathrooms.
I can’t say too much about the guys bathroom since I’ve never been inside of one, but I can say that they’ll probably look identical to the pictures I post below.
As you can see, the bathrooms are nice and clean (the cleaning ladies clean everyday, Monday-Friday.) But during those TWO days that the cleaning ladies are away, the bathroom turns into all-chaos! There will be pranks: Once, a few stalls had plastic wrap all over it. Another time, there was guacamole on the toilet seats.
People will leave their food in the sinks…*Sigh*….and they’ll remain there until a smelly odor arrives. The stalls WILL be clogged. I remember, last year, there was always this one stall that no one could use–it was like the toilet was allergic to toilet paper or something! It was excruciating. (Also, if any of those things do happen, tell your RA! He or She will know what to do!)
Also…please flush…no one wants to see all that nastiness!
The showers are also quite nice.
However, I can not stress enough, PLEASE wear shower shoes–you won’t regret it, I promise!
On each floor in Snowbarger, Lampher, Stockton and Rice, a laundry room will be provided.
There’s usually two washers and two dryers. Doing laundry is FREE–Praise the Lord–so don’t worry about bringing quarters. As long as you take care of the washers and don’t over fill, or under fill them, then they should work perfectly…for the most part.
AS a freshman, you’re freedom is a tad bit limited–not because we don’t trust you, but because we love you, and we want you to make good decisions. With that said, there will be a curfew, and you’ll be required to check in with you’re RA every night. Don’t worry too much, though! It’s not as bad as it seems, and if you’re doing what you’re supposed to do, then you’ll be fine!
Also, there is this thing called open hours; the times fluctuate depending on what year you are in. In other words, the campus has allowed days where the opposite sex can be in your room–which is awesome because you can hang out with your guy friends or girls friends without going to the lobby all the time.
The “Real” Reason Why Pets Aren’t Allowed.
Everyone one wants to bring their pets. Heck, everyday I think about going out and buying a dog. The truth is, life is lonely without your loyal companion, and no person can replace that. But honestly, it’s college! If you really sit down and think about it, when will you have time to feed, and let your animals out? They’ll feel neglected because you’ll never be home, and they’ll use the bathroom all over the place, and your neighbors will begin to complain about the smell coming from inside of your room. All of it is a hassle. If you really need to have someone to tell your inner thoughts to besides your favorite stuffed animal, you can always purchase a fish or a turtle! They don’t exactly have fur, and they don’t demand as much attention.
Meet my roommate and I’s fish. His name is Bubbles!
As always, I hoped my blog enlightened you on something new!
Blog World, it’s true: Today, my blog has no direct theme and is full of random information.
Random information, in which, I hope you find helpful…
I think the scariest thing about moving away from home, and onto a college campus, would be living with someone you don’t know.
For the next nine months, you get to share your personal space with a complete, and total, stranger. However, it’s not as scary as it seems. A roommate can be someone you confide in, someone you share many laughs with, and someone you will remember for the rest of your life. When It comes to choosing a roomie, I’d suggest choosing wisely. I’ve heard sooo many terrible stories about rooming with a best friend. It turns out, living with someone you already know, can create a dent in a good friendship. I’m not saying it won’t work out, but I’d be very careful when it comes to rooming with a best friend. When filling out your housing information for MNU, there is an option to choose a random roommate! There, you are given the option to find a roommate who–hopefully–has the same qualities as you. For example: Messy/Super organized, Early-bird/Night owl ect. Again, these things aren’t exact, but at least you get some say in your rooming situation.
Communication is Key: If your roommate does something that bugs you, let him/her know immediately. Mis-communication is one of the BIGGEST problems people face.
Create a list of rules together: That way, nothing is left unsaid. If you feel like your room is messy and needs to be cleaned, create a chart! If you think there should be certain hours to have friends over, write it down!
Build friendships outside of the room: The MNU community is insanely amazing. The people here are nice–most of them ;)–and I’m sure they wouldn’t mind having you tag along. It’s good to have a few friends to fall back on–just in case life gets sour with your roommate.
Have Fun: Throw parties together! Invite friends over! Get creative. Remember: college only happens once in a lifetime–for most people–make the most of it!
Also: Your college experience probably won’t be anything like the movie, The Roommate…Just saying.
Academics At MNU are no joke! The professors here are incredible, and have been taught to teach to everyone’s needs.
The class options are almost endless. With it being my second year here as an English Education major, the reality of being an “actual” college student is finally sinking in on me. As a freshman, it was so easy to slack of, and procrastinate till I couldn’t procrastinate anymore. I was the queen of staying up late and getting work done…or not doing anything at all. It took me a year to realize that I was the only person paying for my college education. My parents weren’t helping, distant relatives weren’t helping, It was ALL me (plus the scholarships that MIdAmerica had offered.) But I realized, It’s not like public school, when I graduate, I will have loans to pay off, and I want those loans to be something I worked hard for! With that said, I’ve been spending long hours in the library doing homework and studying. I’m trying my best to get everything done on time!
Caffeine and I have officially became best friends!
This actually isn’t even coffee, It’s Apple Cider from Dewey’s (The Campus Starbucks!)
I felt the need to share a piece of my life with you! I spent my first weekend off campus this week. It was weird because I didn’t actually go home, I was staying with a woman who attends my church. She lives by herself–for now anyway. Her husband is in Serbia!–in a little cottage in Kansas City, and she has this really BIG dog named Malena–she was such a sweetheart. Anyway, I guess there really is no moral to this story. The entire weekend I watched the TV show, Bones. I enjoyed it; it has a great story line and all…but I’d rather watch Supernatural! (Woot! Woot!) I’m probably mildly obsessed with that show–I don’t know if that’s healthy or not…but who cares? Also, this weekend I took a ton of pictures! I’ll post some of them below.
P.S. I know I said I was going to post a Spindle room tour this week, but my apartment is a mess! My suite-mates and I have been uberly busy! Next week I’ll have two videos up–I promise!
Till Next Time!
While I was waiting for my ride on Friday afternoon, I took this snap shot!
Malena: The dog that followed me around all weekend!
The Sunday morning sun! I guess I was feeling really inspired…