Hey Bloggers! It’s been a while. Yesterday, MNU made the headlines! The Red Bus Project stopped by and set up shop.
From their website:
WHAT IS THE RED BUS PROJECT? We’re driving a double decker bus-turned-mobile thrift store from college to college, spreading awareness about the needs of orphans and raising money for orphan care. WHY? Because millions of orphans around the world need a family. Together we can give them a voice. HOW DOES IT WORK? Donate your best clothes, buy clothes on the bus and invite all your friends to join the Red Bus Project. The funds raised by the thrift store will go toward providing forever families to orphans.
Watch the video above! Here are some pics from the event!
As you sit at the mind numbing computer screen you may be facing the dilemma of finishing your homework…or possibly finishing that episode of Prison Break. More seriously you may be deciding between colleges, jobs, living situations, etc.
How do we often find the answers to these pivotal points? Perhaps a pro/con list, ask friends, of course pray, overall we assess the situation and weigh the options. Which one is more beneficial to me?
While of course weighing options and evaluating consequences is necessary, sometimes you just need to do something. I tend to think we sit on the sidelines for so long awaiting our names to be called so we can rip off those sweet, throwback, button-up pants. Yet, some go their whole lives waiting for confirmation on a decision; in that time opportunity is being missed out on. Life is being missed out on.
During Spring Break last week I got to hang out with this friend. Now this friend has been through quite a bit; things of his own decision and others not so much. However, through these trials and valleys he is staring into the eyes of God. As he is staring he is impacting so many people with his passion and perseverance. He knows God will provide for him. He isn’t a Biblical Scholar, he hasn’t been to school for this at all, he is hardly around people who challenge him with this.
When I saw change in his life, I sought him out. So, over some FroYo he told me a story I yearn to somewhat duplicate and/or never forget. Like Hawk Nelson, he packed up and moved to California… yet, he had no friends out there. He had no idea. This was a leap of faith.
Throughout this story he exemplified what it meant to trust Jesus on a level more severe than the lackadaisical, hesitant, and questioning approach most American Christians take. Long story short; he left for change and then decided to return changed.
The moral of this story and what should be the moral of all of our stories is that we WILL NOThave it all figured out at any point. We will question, doubt, and think “What if…” Yet, somehow that is where life produces the most beautiful pictures. That can be seen in a sunset on your way through Arizona when God’s face isn’t any clearer or it can be revealed in the loving acts of a stranger you felt somewhat “pulled towards.” Just take the trip, just ask her out, just ask that person for help.
Limit your pride, expose your vulnerability.
I leave you with this.
It’s okay to play, pro/con, and think about things. It’s not okay to worry, overanalyze, and miss out on this big world. Take a risk. Challenge yourself. Jump.
So this week was the first week back from break. First week of classes, and first week of stress. Let me tell you, it was a little overwhelming for me. I’m the type of person that when I look at all the things I have to accomplish, even if a homework assignment isn’t due for another two weeks, or maybe not even homework, maybe something in my life that I’m just dwelling on a lot, I freak out and get really anxious. So this has been my life this week. But I also wanted to share with you guys the lesson I have learned from this.
This lesson actually has to do with one of my new classes I’m taking. Well, not necessarily the class, but what we study. I’m currently in a New Testament! I can say with confidence that this will be one of my favorite classes this whole semester. Mainly because I’m studying the bible instead of math equations! How awesome is that! I feel so incredibly blessed that I’m able to go to a school that allows us to dive into the word and study it on a deeper level.
So throughout the semester, we are required to read our “Discovering the New Testament” book that we had to purchase for the class, but we also are required to read the whole New Testament! We are first reading the 4 Gospels, which are Matthew, Mark, Luke, and john. We are starting with Mark, and I am currently reading chapter 4 right now. And this is where all that I’m talking about will make a little more sense to you.
Mark 4:35-41 says,
“That day when evening came, he said to his disciples, “Let us go over to the other side.” Leaving the crowd behind, they took him along, just as he was, in the boat. There were also other boats with him. A furious squall came up, and the waves broke over the boat, so that it was nearly swamped. Jesus was in the stern, sleeping on a cushion. The disciples woke him and said to him, “Teacher, don’t you care if we drown?” He got up, rebuked the wind and said to the waves, “Quiet! Be still!” Then the wind died down and it was completely calm. He said to his disciples, “Why are you so afraid? Do you still have no faith?” They were terrified and asked each other, “Who is this? Even the wind and the waves obey him!”
When I read this, it really hit hard for me. I feel as though sometimes, I can be the disciples. Asking God if he knows what I’m going through. And if He is still there with me. The example of having lots of homework is nothing compared to what kind of trauma’s we can experience sometimes in this life. But this past week, and I think it was a build up of a lot of things I’m going through right now, I have felt as though I’m stuck right in the middle of that storm.
But why am I so afraid…. Do I still have no faith?
Can the God who calmed the storm for the disciples that day, who said to the wind and the waves, “Quiet! Be still!”, also be the same God who can calm the storms in my life?
Yes. He is the same, yesterday, today, and forever. My faith has been tested quite a lot throughout this season of my life, and I know for sure God has been there with me throughout all of the storms I have had to face.
So I guess I just wanted to share with you guys what was on my heart this weekend/has been on my heart for a while now. I hope it spoke to you in some way. I also want to encourage you to rest in Him. Whatever may be going on in your life right now, and even if you aren’t going through anything crazy; just praise him for being God. :] Even as he calmed the storm for the disciples, he can calm you throughout any storm you may be going through right now.
God sometimes chooses to calm us, rather than the storms. But he also promises never to leave us. He is our comforter and he loves us more than we could ever imagine.
To lighten the mood of this blog post, I thought i’d share with you guys a cute picture of my lovely friend, Emily. We went to savers today for their 50% off sale, and this is what she found. :] I love her a lot, and am so blessed to be able to do life with this girl. :]
Well guys, that’s all I have for this week. :] I hope you enjoyed reading, and got at least something out of it. If you didn’t, I am truly sorry.
I’d like to start this blog off wishing myself a happy birthday, as it was on Tuesday.And then I’ll wish my birthday twin Will a happy birthday, too.
…And then the same for my bestie Konner whose birthday is today!!
And next but no less important than those above, I’d like to wish my roommate Ashley a happy birthday, because anytime any of her friends have a birthday, she claims it for herself and accepts gifts.
…aaaaaaaaand Finally, I’d like to thank Katy Perry for writing the song “Birthday” which trumps 22 by T-Swift. (go listen)
So I turned 22 this week, and it happened to be the first day back to school. This is the first year I’ve been in school for my birthday, to which most would think, that’s a bummer. I’d venture to say quite the opposite. Sure classes started, but the work load isn’t too heavy the first week of school. Everyone is around and hanging out. It has been a week-long party!
This is how it’s gone.
Tuesday morning, I woke up to this sign with a box of donuts and a birthday cup from my roommate Kassidy. She’s so clever! Also, she is officially a high school English teacher in the Independence school district! I’m so proud of her- she got the job and she’s barely started student teaching! When you see her on campus, congratulate her! Also know that she is Miss January in the Athletes of MNU calendar. LOVE HER.
Then I went to classes and was pleasantly greeted by my friends and professors wishing me a happy birthday! Then after my last first day of class, Konner and I got our nails done at Lovely Nails in Olathe! They are seriously the nicest ever and do such a great job! Highly recommended. Then, we spent the afternoon together until we went to Korma Sutra, which is my favorite restaurant EVER! Also HIGHLY recommended- Thanks to my roommate amazing roommate Rachel for organizing it!
Then me and 389 of my closest friends went to a bowling/laser tag/put put place where I successfully scored a 43 in bowling with my bestfriend Emily- yes. that score is between the two of us. yayyy
This ended around Midnight when we all came back to the dorms and ate ice cream cake from Kon-Kon! She got it Dora and Diego for a double birthday party!
Since then I’ve gone out to lunch with my friend Lauren at Spin Pizza, had Indian food twice more with my sister and parents, and pretty much have been living the birthday diva dream!
I do have to say, the best gift I’ve gotten has to be my new roommate! Kara transferred from Point Loma and was randomly placed in our room. Is it too soon to say that it’s love? Maybe. Does it feel like she’s been here since the beginning? Definitely. This is a picture which I’m sure she appreciates…taken as Konner and I hazed her and her boyfriend Bugs (also transferred- he’s a QB on the football team.)
Then last night began the celebration of Konner’s 21st Birthday! We started at Holy Land Cafe for a ladies night dinner, then came back to my pad to her presents and candy!
This morning we went to an amazing church service at Mission this morning, out to lunch at Salty Iguana, and tonight… who knows?! Sky is the limit with these amazing friends.
We begin with me and my bags, almost ready to depart from MNU
But before leaving, I had to park my car with the rest of the cars that are being left for break. (Right next to Campus Safety’s Office)
Real quick here’s a screen shot of my Maps App describing the wonderful distance and time of the “by land” trip home.
Yeah, flying is just a wee bit faster.
So after being picked up by Jamie, I got to eat some MickieDs breakfast with her beautiful self!
Well, after being dropped off a nice hour and a half before my flight were to take off, I wait. But thankfully, I brought my books and am going through Professor Flemming’s libro!
So I kind of had Jamie drop me off at the wrong terminal. I was supposed to go to C, but I had her drop me off at A, thinking that United Airlines was the same thing as U.S. Airways…. That is not the case. So I took the red bus to terminal C. Then I found out that because my first flight was delayed, I got rebooked to take an entirely different route-with an entirely different airline: U.S. Airways. So back to terminal A I had to go, and here is that picture.
I got past through the second round of TSA agents for the day, and was awaiting at my gate. Now instead of leaving at 1130 as I was supposed to, I was to leave at 3. BUT it was going to be a direct flight. Instead of two as originally supposed. Also, instead of arriving at 415, I was just going to be arriving at 451. Talk about Score!!
While waiting, I saw this sign and was like “Yes, definitely the best way to travel.” Only I don’t carry a purse or murse, I bring a backpack:D
Being there three hours before departure, it was pretty vacant, so I took a nap.
When I woke up around and hour later, there was a lady sitting across from me. So I decided to ask if she was on the Phoenix flight, she was. Then I asked why be so early, she had been working all through the night, and after not sleeping well figured, why not just come to the airport already? I’m cool with that, cause we talked for like the next hour or so and now I have a new friend! Margaret you rock!! And peeps, she works in the hospital and serves as a respiratory therapist. She helps bring the breath of life back to people!! Specifically individuals that are infants or younger. Totes obvi is she a boss!!
This is the step from the terminal onto the airplane. It probably just felt more epic than it truly was, but whatevs.
I got on the plane, got an aisle seat and was ready to start heading home!!
Fastforward to arrival, and skip me taking another nap that a polite Troy sitting by the window, who had to use the restroom, waited patiently till I awoke to ask to move past me to get to it, and skip the takeoff and landing since I couldn’t video it because I’d have been videoing Troy-whom I didn’t even know his name at that point until then.
Anyway, though I packed two carry on items, I volunteered to check my lil’ suitcase, which I thought meant that I would get it back to me right after landing, as in in the terminal, but nope had to go to baggage claim (which defeats the whole purpose of bring two carry on items) But no worries, my bag was not lost–it did get put on a different carousel, from some of the rest of the peeps on my flight, but I found it!
Caught up with Margaret again, had her identical twin sister Mary take this photo, told her to check out mnu.edu/blogs so that she could see the pics I were taking, weren’t purely for my own enjoyment. Which btw sorry I got this posted Saturday as opposed to Friday Margaret!!
Fastforward 3 hours of driving from the airport to here, and here’s my home:)
And here’s my backyard:
Inside the home, it feels homeE
First time in almost ten years that we have stockings put up!
Then there has been the activities that have gone on outside:
Here’s Mom and Dad with us picking out our Xmas tree.
By the way, some people get upset or disgruntled when people write Xmas instead of Christmas for concern that Christ is being removed. Well if you think or know people that think that, share with them that it began as an abbreviation for Christmas centuries ago since the first letter in the Greek spelling of Christ is the letter X. Therefore X represents Christ. It is an abbreviation with the same meaning. And though X in English is used/pronounced in the same way that X-men Wolverine is, it’s supposed to be Christmas.
Anyway, moving along to some more outdoor activities:)
I got to help my dad saw off some dead branches. Now though, they were weak, thin, and dead I still did it okay!
Here’s Dad now, at the end when I made manly grunts, for whatever reason they startled him:P
Here are some Xmas lights that we put up:
Here’s our front porch with luces.
And finally this has been a lesson that’s been renailed into my heart as of late.
I think if anyone will venture to look hard and long enough, he or she will find that they are in need.
I am not exempt.
But at least there is always hope.
Well that’s it for this week friends. Peace in the Middle East, Merry Christmas (or Xmas) And I hope you enjoy this song by Cloverton!
Christmas break: No school Family time Friends galore Getting swole’ Coffee shop visits on coffee shop visits
I guess this time of year isn’t that bad. Despite the wretched cold….
From a Christian perspective, it is the time of waiting, preparation, and anticipation. It’s the season of Advent. Now, I am nowhere near an expert on this idea and what it fully looks like, yet, I know how the initial idea affects me. In my mind there is a consistent fight of the concept of Christmas by the mass media. I see all these wants and a ton of receiving. What I desire to see are needs and unfathomable amounts of giving. Correlating advent, we are all given hope that redemption, in its fullest form, is on its way: Christ.
We are filled with this hope and to be filled is an opportunity to pour out.
I have read/ am reading a few books lately that are challenging me beyond myself. Toxic Charity by Robert Lupton, Wrecked by Jeff Goins, and Daring Greatly by Dr. Brene Brown. The concepts found range from enabling versus empowering, how to invest in life in a fulfilling way, and what it means to be satisfied in a world of “not enough”. What I am seeing consistently throughout all readings is that life is not about me. My life is purposed beyond myself and my capabilities. As it is the holiday season, it hits home that my mind shouldn’t be focused selfishly. It can be hard with so many cool things that attract my attention. There are people in need all around us, in every concept, from physiologically to spiritually. Yet, in Wrecked I am seeing that true compassion doesn’t always make us feel good; (DUH) it’s not for us. Often we make people objects and just do things for them which ultimately hurts them, but it makes us feel good. Don’t focus on how you feel afterward, it’s not about us. We see people who need more than we can give and they open our eyes to revelations that we cannot unsee and may, and hopefully will, change the course of our lives and thought processes.
(That is a condensed-probably-confusing version of what my mind has been trying to grasp lately)
“You don’t have behave complexly to show love, extravagant love can be seen in the simplest of forms.”
Here are a few ways to make a lasting impact on someone during this season:
1) Food, food, food.
People don’t always have family, money, or whatever else to have an extravagant holiday dinner. Bring people together for fun and fellowship. Even if they do have the means necessary, come together in a way beyond your own little bubble.
2) Get out of your comfort zone.
This can look like a variety of things. In the end it’s about having perspective amidst the surrounding world. Have a conversation with the guy ringing the bell for the salvation army or talk to the person sitting next to you alone in a coffee shop. It doesn’t have to be big, keep it simple and love immensely.
3) MORE FOOD.
Partake in a pay-it-forward type venture. Whether this is at a restaurant or, you guessed it, a coffee shop, give without expectation. This can also look like buying food (or whatever need) for the person holding the cardboard sign, make a personal investment instead of throwing money at them. This can create conversation that allows them to leave with more than a few less dollars and a sense of good-doing.
4) Give more than you get.
It’s easy to get caught up in the fascination with new things during this time of year, but those things will become “old” soon enough. Invest your time in money in worthy causes and organizations. This can look like asking for less with another idea in mind of where the money can go or maybe it is going to a shelter and making community with people on Christmas.
In short, go beyond yourself this season. I’m not saying give everything up and focus solely on others; it’s okay to get gifts and new stuff and have fun. I am saying however, be willing to give in time and investment whatever that looks like. After all, we are to be hopeful as we await the coming of Christ. Take that hope and spread it; with your family, friends, people at the gym, and people at your frequently visited coffee shop.
*Perspective should be had all year long. In the simplest acts, like helping carry groceries, love extravagantly. Don’t assume someone else will make the potential difference you’ve been presented with; you are that SOMEONE.
So last week you got to see our MNU Soccer team’s video, here’s our Volleyball team’s video:
Now’s here are the highlights from the HAAC tournament Final versus Baker: If you see in the first few seconds I guy with curly hair and dancing with crazy legs, that’s Luke Letsinger one of our Student Chaplains. Then to the side am I with my friend Nathan in red pants and a beanie:
I forgot to mention that Wednesday at Kairos (the Wednesday evening chapel for college students at College Church of the Nazarene) we helped package about 160 Thanksgiving meals-made possible by the generosity of the people at College Church of the Nazarene.
Here are some of the typical Thanksgiving groceries minus the turkey!
Here was the semi crate holding space (whatever it’s called: truck load?) of Turkeys!!
Here’s a photo of most of the people that served Wednesday night!
Philosophy Class is one of my faves:
Some of my friends in Philosophy class from left to right: Phillip Prado, Chelsea Amos, and Jordan Case. #beaniesfuhdayz
After watching the Hunger Games: Catching Fire…..
This is from the opening scene of the flick
…… My friend and resident on my hall, Aaron Smith did something I applauded him for:
Aaron seized the opportunity to take home some popcorn from the movie theater! Also in this photo montage is another good friend of mine Charles Feller!
And here’s a photo of Her:
Since we don’t have any pics together, I figured using her current profile pic would be okay :D
She is madly in love with Jesus, intelligent and witty, funny and silly, confident yet humble, and she is obviously beautiful: I’m clearly a SPOILEDLY blessed man.
It’s that time of season when the leaves are falling, and the scent of college boys are lingering around in the air–it’s usually a smell of over-sprayed Axe and Old Spice with a little sweat mixed along with it.
It’s about this time when MidAmerica decides to advertise their annual event: TWIRP
For many of you who aren’t familiar with this term, I’m going to start off by saying: “No, this has nothing to do with twirking.”
When I came to MNU my freshman year, for the longest time, I thought TWIRP was pronounced TWIRK, and I was really confused as to why there was a big hype to it, and why everyone wanted to participate in it. I mean, eww….???
Anyway, TWIRP is a short acronym that means: The Woman Is Required To Pay. Thus, girls grow magical marbles, and find the courage to ask a sweaty guy, of their choosing, out on a date.
It’s Supposed to be ROMANTIC–they say.
You’ll love it–they say.
It will be the best experience of your life–they say.
But I beg to differ. Whenever I think of TWIRP, I have one emotion: frustration.
So now, I get that you probably might feel my bitterness toward the situation. You might be grumbling things like: Why is it such a big deal? Don’t be sour about it. Really, what do you have to lose?
Oh, I’ll tell you what I have to lose: MY DIGNITY!
Ha, no, just kidding….but seriously. Asking a guy out takes major guts. If you ask out one of you’re good friends, you could risk losing a friendship, embarrassment, and rejection–which is a triple wammy!
From experience, I can personally say that the twirping thing didn’t work out for me. I was turned down–high and dry–before I even had the chance to process what had happened.
But hey, my experience doesn’t mean that this will happen to everyone. I’ve seen plenty of girls exceed in the TWIRP process.
So if you’re a girl wanting to do this–I say GO FOR IT.
So by the title I am sure you can tell that this is a bit different from what I normally write about. I was inspired by a dinner conversation I had with some of the girls. We exchanged stories, boy stories to be exact, about different experiences we had. Most of these stories were on the funny and a bit on the creepy side. After discussing, we talked about how we wished guys would know how to handle situations better. If you’re interested in a girl there are certain unwritten rules. We talked and agreed on some, and decided this would be a great blog!
Now these bits of advice are generally speaking, not about anyone in particular. We just thought it would be nice to help some guys out! Also keep in mind that all girls are different, very different, but for the most part these are rules you can follow for the average girl.
So here they are, the to do’s and what not to do’s in getting a date with a girl!
1. “God Told Me To Date You”
What Not To Do: Don’t pull the “God told me to date you” card. For so many reasons this is a problem. First, it puts a lot of unnecessary pressure on a girl and on a relationship. If she has not heard from God that this is the case, she is not going to respond well to the statement.
What To Do: If you really feel like God is wanting you to date her, than great! But keep it to yourself. If this is truly what God wants, He will keep her around. Pray about it! No need to rush!
2. Read the Signs When You Ask For Her Number
What Not To Do: You don’t want to be the guy that can’t read the signs. As subtle as they may seem, trying to read them is always a good idea. When you ask for a girls number and she seems unenthusiastic, gives a nervous laugh or smile, or tries to avoid the subject, than she probably doesn’t want to give it to you. So something you wouldn’t want to do is to text her immediately and constantly. If you don’t get the hints up front, a girl is eventually going to have to be more blunt which will hurt worse.
What To Do: Wait awhile before asking for her number. Some girls may like it if you ask for it right away, but a lot of girls are skeptical. So don’t get upset if you get the sign! The girl may have just had a guy hanging around them that broke a bunch of these unwritten rules, so they aren’t wanting to give out their number to anyone… So instead, get to know her first! You don’t have to be buddy-buddy and get friend-zoned, but just a friendly conversation in class or a wave while walking passing her by makes a girl feel more comfortable!
3. There Is a Rule To Texting
What Not To Do: Yes there is a rule, and one rule the girls and I agreed on was the 2-4 text rule. If you send 2-4 texts without a response back (this goes for girls too) than there probably isn’t an interest there. Now there are exceptions to the rule, but for the most part this is the case. You don’t want to be the guy that sends 10+ texts at a time. Take the signs, so a girl doesn’t have to be blunt. If you are really unsure if your text are sending through, text a friend or your mom.
What To Do: If you have reached the limit, take a break for awhile. I know it might be hurtful, but don’t put yourself through the torture! Now girls do love to be pursued, but the point is don’t go overboard if she’s not interested. You will find someone that is, and she will be the one you want to pursue and spend your time with!
4. Mentioning Marriage the First Time You Meet Someone
What Not To Do: Don’t talk about how bad you want a wife the first time you meet a girl. She is probably in the same boat as you, but that adds a lot of pressure to the conversation.
What To Do: Have you noticed a theme? Timing is important! The only way to know perfect timing is through prayer. Talking about marriage is something to wait to talk about.
I hope this is helpful! The major theme when it is all said and done is timing. Pray and ask the Lord to guide you through this time. If you are in high school or college you have plenty of time, so don’t rush it! Girls if you want some advice in a future blog let me know!
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