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April 14, 2015

A Challenge from a Counseling Psychology Theory

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Hello friends

So currently I am taking a Fundamentals of Counseling course for my major.  It is very interesting to learn about the different theories on how to help people.  People of all different types, with all different challenges, that need help getting through the day to day.

One type we have been talking about is called positive psychology.  Now this is definitely not my favorite theory out there, I think sometimes we have to go deeper into some of the issues, but the basics of thankfulness and appreciation can make major improvements in daily life.  This theory focuses on the “positives,” and being thankful.

My professor (Amy Cain wooh!) even related the concepts back to Scripture.  How often does the Lord ask us to give praise, and to serve, and to rest.  All component positive psychology uses in therapy.  Some of the homework positive psychologist give clients I wanted to share.  I decided to challenge myself to do this, and thought some of you out there could benefit as well!

1. Go through each day this week, and write down 5 good things that happened.  For instance, discuss accomplishments, something that was fun, a time you felt proud, a time you helped someone else, etc.

2. Tell someone this week that you are thankful for them.  Say it and write it.

3. Go for a walk (because it is so nice and beautiful out!) and be appreciative of your surroundings.  (You can read some of my old blog posts about finding joy in the ordinary, a scriptural idea used in a secular psychology theory)

The more objective psychology student in me wants to say that there is not enough research and this approach does not necessarily go down into the root of the problem.  There are definitely those cases where you may need to go deeper than just “feeling good” and being positive.  But I think these ideas are scriptural, to show praise and to be thankful.  So maybe try it out

Thanks for stopping by,

Haley

Haley Raydo

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March 30, 2015

Afternoon Thoughts

March 30, 2015 | By | 2 Comments

Hello friends

Although I am just now sitting down to write this (9:43 pm) I had some incredible thoughts that took place this afternoon… Well at least some were incredible.

There is something about a nice sunny afternoon that just gets me thinking.  The boys I nanny sleeping, the wind is light, and I just sit and take a deep breath.  After some extended deep-thinking/worrying-about-the-future morning, the sun and a place to just sit in the calm is perfect.  Every once in awhile an image of my Cognitive Neuropsychology textbook will pop into my head, reminding me of my very important exam.  I could very well be in denial, but there is something refreshing letting my mind relax.

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As I reflect I recall the verses in Psalms 37 “Take delight in the LORD, and he will give you the desires of your heart.  Commit your way to the LORD, trust in him and we do this: He will make your righteous reward like the dawn, your vindication like the noonday sun.”  What does it mean to take delight in Him?  To enjoy His presence, to believe and trust Him, to love Him, and to choose Him.  I think it is great to serve a God who longs to give me the desires of my heart.  That doesn’t mean he gives me whatever I want.  It means if I desire Him than I desire things that are godly and pleasing. And he longs to give those to me.  My passions and dreams are included.  What a promise to make us righteous, bright and shining like this afternoon sun.  After a morning of worry, a reassurance to trust and commit in the afternoon.  

I reflect, find the image of my Cognitive Neuropsychology book reappear and quickly exit my thoughts, and then shortly reminded of reality as cries from a cute baby boy exclaim his nap time must be over.  I rush to greet the cries so to not wake up the toddler asleep upstairs.  I look at this baby boy and smile to know that this boy is a part of God’s creation and is loved deeply by the Creator.  How cool to know that God has a plan and a purpose, even for a boy that just is beginning his life.

 

Then the reflecting time is over as toddler marches down the stairs.  Greeted by a “Hi Hay-ey” (he can not say his L’s) and a cute little smile before the demanding of Mickey Mouse.  Then my day is in full on rush of homework and worrying once again.

The point?  Take time to reflect.  Take time to breathe.  Take time to delight.  Take time to find the joy of Christ.

Thanks for stopping by

Haley

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December 1, 2014

Diary of a College Student

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I am a college student, and for that I am thankful.  But it is also a very stressful time.  I mean, I don’t remember a time where I was at a family gathering and wasn’t asked about school or my future career.  When asked about my major, I find an almost whisper and respond, “psychology.”  That single worded response elicits so many questions.  “What do you want to do with that?” “Do you know you have to go to graduate school to be a counselor?” I shake my head quietly every time-o  But secretly I am thinking “do you know how many times I have heard that?!”

Man… there are times I want to give up.  I am thinking about it right now as I type.  What would it be like, if I left? Found some job… maybe work in a church?  That is my dream.  I definitely would not have to worry about taking finals next week.  Cross an item off my worry list… I wonder what it would be like to have my own place… I would get a dog. Definitely.  Is this the stress that is talking? Probably.

I really do love college.  The people I have met will forever change my life. The things I have learned will forever change my narrow-minded perspective.  The stories I have will be forever told to my children, who with no doubt, will be sick of them by the tenth time around.  The relationship with Christ I have built, without a question, will last longer than “forever” but literally eternity.  That is something I treasure most about being a college student, particularly at a Christian school.  I have asked more questions, I have contemplated more ideas–that I am not sure I knew existed–, and I have stepped out into more boldness than ever in my life.  It’s a jumpstart.  It’s a jumpstart to my adult life.  My adult life that still has a considerable amount of time; I am just now reaching it.

This time in college, is stressful.  It is hard.  It is challenging.  Sometimes I wonder where I fit in.  Sometimes I wonder where God is.  I get homesick.  And I sure do not get enough sleep for what is good for me.  But it is a time where I have learned more than I could have ever imagined.   I am working on building a foundation for my life.  I am studying to be a better citizen, daughter, sister, future wife and mother, future career person and counselor, and a better daughter of Christ.  A better workman for His glory.  These stepping stones, are messy.  Life is messy.  It isn’t easy, but I am growing.  That is the ultimate goal, right?  To grow.  To grow in education and maturity, to grow into someone that has dreams and visions.  With an eternal perspective. Not set on the things this world offer, but what is really important.

So yes, I am not always in the best mood.  I fail daily.  I am not always the person I know God has created me to be. But I am learning.  Learning with open hands, with an open mind, with an open heart, and with open eyes.  To learn what Christ has already done and is going to do, and to be willing to follow it.  Maybe not everyone gets this same experience in college.  You definitely don’t have to have this experience in college. But this is where I am at.  This is where I am supposed to be.  I don’t think that way enough.  I will take in my learning and growing process.  It is messy.  It is scary.  And it is hard.  But it pays off. 

Thanks for listening

Haley

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November 3, 2014

My Nights In with Dr. Meredith Grey, Dwight K. Schrute, & Haley James Scott

November 3, 2014 | By | No Comments

Hello friends!

Can you believe it’s November? Because I can’t!  But no complaints from me, this is my favorite month of the year! Anyways.. I am sitting here jamming to Taylor Swift’s new album (yeah me and all my roommates are a little obsessed you can follow me on twitter if you want to really understand my obsession: @haleyraydo) wondering what I should write about this week.  Between the heartbreak from the Royals (I am still a very proud, loyal fan), us putting up our Christmas decorations (yes we are those people), again our suite’s obsession with Taylor Swift, me writing more music diligently, and what not… its been hard to think of a lot of other things (including our studies whoops).  Thats life though, its easy to get distracted from what is really important… like Netflix, Netflix is important right?

Seriously though, how much of my time goes toward watching Netflix?  Um a big chunk. It’s seriously a time-sucking machine.  I think one of the biggest lies people tell themselves, “I’ll just watch one more episode.” No you won’t!  Its a trap!  I mean from the Dr Meredith Grey to Dwight Schrute, these people really make me happy.

Now here is the standard argument against Netflix.  It becomes an activity that takes us away from the opportunities from what is around us! First of all think about all the quiet times with the Lord you could have, the extra hours of studying, the time to take a friend out for coffee, a chance to get out and volunteer, and so forth.  Don’t fall into the modern time sucking machine! Your time is valuable.

Now I am going to be crazy and argue FOR NETFLIX.  We all have stressors in this life and it is always good to have a time to unwind and relax.  If you are going first to the Father for comfort then there is nothing wrong with a little Netflix!  If you find the right and appropriate show and use self-discipline why not! We all need that time.  Been studying for hours? Unwind, plop your feet up and watch a show.  I mean some can even be educational I mean who knew you could grow your own trachea? Watch Grey’s Anatomy and you can see how Alex Karev does it.

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Am I making stuff up?  Probably but hey if we are filling our minds with clean things, not neglecting our responsibilities, putting the Lord and our time with Him first, and maintaing relationships with friends and family, how could it be a problem?  There is no shame in a Friday night-in with Netflix!

P.S. My favorite shows: The Office, Grey’s Anatomy, Downton Abbey (not on Netflix unfortunately), One Tree Hill. And yes I know two of those are extremely depressing, I have to work in The Office to make me feel better.  Why I still watch shows that make me sob who knows- I think I am just a bit emotionally invested.

Thanks for stopping by,

Haley

Also let me know what shows you recommend!

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November 19, 2013

This Could Be YOUR RA.

November 19, 2013 | By | No Comments

At MNU, and in most college dormitories, there is an Residential Assistant, or RA, assigned to a every hall. I’d like to think that the RA’s at MNU have a special kick to them, and that they give off a sense of home–in fact, I know that there is something different about the RA’s at MNU because I interviewed one, and I know that having someone who makes you feel like you “belong“, while you’re in a strange new place, can make the world that much better.

So let me introduce you to Terrin Garber:

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-Where are you from?

Carthage Missouri. Originally from Houston Texas. but moved here the summer before 8th grade.

-What year are you?

Junior

-How was it, for you, when you moved in your freshman year? How did you feel? What were your fears and hopes?

It was awesome.

Fears: I didn’t have too many fears. I was excited to get to know more people.

Hopes:  To do well in baseball, and  to learn more about the bible.

-What do you think it takes to become an RA?

Know who you are; be willing to be selfless, and plan for spontaneous events. Learn to be adaptable; be a leader, and try to connect with others.

 

-Is it possible to truly love those whom you don’t like or get along with?

Yes. Prayer changes everything. You might not like someone and think you might not have anything in common with them, but you truly never know unless you try. A professor here, Dr. Dunn, always said, “You have to view people for whom Christ died.” When you view people that way, it’s easier to realize that God didn’t just sacrifice his son for you, but for everyone. We are called to love the unlovable, so love extravagantly.

-How would you say, that being a leader in a christian community, has impacted you?

It makes you grow up–I’m a completely different person than who I was two years ago. Being a leader makes you consider your actions and think about how your decisions could affect other people.

-Do you have any advice for the people who want to come to MNU?

COME! Don’t worry; don’t  sweat the small stuff.  When you feel like your world is crashing in, it’s probably not. Appreciate your parents; don’t rush things. Live NOW. Be here NOW. Highschool only happens once. You’ll only be 17 for one year, so give it all you’ve got! 

Fun Facts:

What’s your favorite meal at Campus Center?

Country fried steak and spicy chicken.

Favorite Color?

Red.

Favorite worship song?

Because He Lives by the Gathors.

Favorite movie?

Pride and prejudice.

Favorite season?

Summer

If you could change one thing that you’ve done today, what would it be?

I wouldn’t have put so much Italian dressing on my salad. ( <<<<—— Seriously…who says stuff like this???)

Welp, That’s all folks!

I hope you enjoyed this week’s blog!

See ya next time!