The Unwritten Rules In Getting a Date! Advice for Boys
So by the title I am sure you can tell that this is a bit different from what I normally write about. I was inspired by a dinner conversation I had with some of the girls. We exchanged stories, boy stories to be exact, about different experiences we had. Most of these stories were on the funny and a bit on the creepy side. After discussing, we talked about how we wished guys would know how to handle situations better. If you’re interested in a girl there are certain unwritten rules. We talked and agreed on some, and decided this would be a great blog!
Now these bits of advice are generally speaking, not about anyone in particular. We just thought it would be nice to help some guys out! Also keep in mind that all girls are different, very different, but for the most part these are rules you can follow for the average girl.
So here they are, the to do’s and what not to do’s in getting a date with a girl!
1. “God Told Me To Date You”
What Not To Do: Don’t pull the “God told me to date you” card. For so many reasons this is a problem. First, it puts a lot of unnecessary pressure on a girl and on a relationship. If she has not heard from God that this is the case, she is not going to respond well to the statement.
What To Do: If you really feel like God is wanting you to date her, than great! But keep it to yourself. If this is truly what God wants, He will keep her around. Pray about it! No need to rush!
2. Read the Signs When You Ask For Her Number
What Not To Do: You don’t want to be the guy that can’t read the signs. As subtle as they may seem, trying to read them is always a good idea. When you ask for a girls number and she seems unenthusiastic, gives a nervous laugh or smile, or tries to avoid the subject, than she probably doesn’t want to give it to you. So something you wouldn’t want to do is to text her immediately and constantly. If you don’t get the hints up front, a girl is eventually going to have to be more blunt which will hurt worse.
What To Do: Wait awhile before asking for her number. Some girls may like it if you ask for it right away, but a lot of girls are skeptical. So don’t get upset if you get the sign! The girl may have just had a guy hanging around them that broke a bunch of these unwritten rules, so they aren’t wanting to give out their number to anyone… So instead, get to know her first! You don’t have to be buddy-buddy and get friend-zoned, but just a friendly conversation in class or a wave while walking passing her by makes a girl feel more comfortable!
3. There Is a Rule To Texting
What Not To Do: Yes there is a rule, and one rule the girls and I agreed on was the 2-4 text rule. If you send 2-4 texts without a response back (this goes for girls too) than there probably isn’t an interest there. Now there are exceptions to the rule, but for the most part this is the case. You don’t want to be the guy that sends 10+ texts at a time. Take the signs, so a girl doesn’t have to be blunt. If you are really unsure if your text are sending through, text a friend or your mom.
What To Do: If you have reached the limit, take a break for awhile. I know it might be hurtful, but don’t put yourself through the torture! Now girls do love to be pursued, but the point is don’t go overboard if she’s not interested. You will find someone that is, and she will be the one you want to pursue and spend your time with!
4. Mentioning Marriage the First Time You Meet Someone
What Not To Do: Don’t talk about how bad you want a wife the first time you meet a girl. She is probably in the same boat as you, but that adds a lot of pressure to the conversation.
What To Do: Have you noticed a theme? Timing is important! The only way to know perfect timing is through prayer. Talking about marriage is something to wait to talk about.
I hope this is helpful! The major theme when it is all said and done is timing. Pray and ask the Lord to guide you through this time. If you are in high school or college you have plenty of time, so don’t rush it! Girls if you want some advice in a future blog let me know!
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